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writes:I'm a gay guy and I had a boyfriend. We were together for 4 years but then we had to break up by my initiative. After our break-up I left the town for some months. I wanted to relax and to start a new life. Time ago I returned, because I had to start to work again. My friend had a birthday, which I was invited as well. There I met my ex. He came to me and told me to go away. I said that I'm invited just like he. When I wasn't paying attention to him, he was still, but every time I looked at him, he started to flirt with guys around him. That made me feel really stupid. Unfortunately I meet him often, because we have many mutual friends. Every time he seems angered by me. I don't talk with him at all, it is always him that starts talking with me. He's yelling and swearing at me. Yes, we broke up, but it doesn't give him rights to treat me like that. Why can't he just leave me alone, just like I'm leaving him alone?
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reader, Boonridge McPhalify  +, writes (20 July 2011):
 he's angry and taking it out on you as he blames you for the relationship ending.
maybe he cannot move on if you are always in the same places. but really he needs to grow up and move on.
i dont think you are leaving him alone. you are ignoring him while you are in the same places as him regularly which is different.
he does seem childish in expecting you to not go to things. really he needs to wake up and move on. you cant make him do this, it will have to happen because he wants to move on. you just have to tolerate this situation until he loses steam and his attitude changes. you chose to end the relationship, now he is choosing to give you grief. in time it will pass and you'll be free of this. but don't tolerate any abusive behaviour.
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reader, Welsh Uncle Dave +, writes (20 July 2011):
It sounds like he hasn't forgiven you for breaking up with him. Maybe you should try and talk to him and find out why he is acting like this towards you.
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