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male
age
36-40,
*llexo
writes:Dearest, I am engaged to the most beautiful lady I've ever known, after a long 6 years relationship. I can never see myself with any other lady than her.Now the thing is, I am trying to maintain a long distance relationship and apparently its really hard, I am working here and I try to find sometime to call her and have some nice chat with her, anyhow recently she is trying to tell me a message which I really cant understand. She keeps telling me that she needs to feel like a girl, I really cant understand what she is saying, but I never argue with her about it so as not to make things worse, as a man, I am trying to communicate that I understand our relationship and cannot say that I don't understand what she means, if its some soft and nice words, then yes we do speak such language from time to time.But the language that she is speaking sometimes I cannot understand it, what does (Make me feel like a girl) means?
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reader, loopylu33  +, writes (3 February 2009):
Well... I guess it depends on what sort of girl she is but because you have such a long distance relationship you are missing all the physical attension that you can pay to each other which in turn makes a woman feel wanted and needed... Maybe just make her feel special... Send some flowers to her work with a simple card saying 'I love you' 'wish i could be with you' 'miss you' Something along those lines. This will show her that your thinking of her but showing it with actions instead of words which is what your relationship is lacking with you being so long distance... also recieving flowers in a public place like work is a massive display of public affection of which makes any woman (no matter what they say) feel special....... good luck x x
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reader, blablablabla +, writes (3 February 2009):
It could mean that she wants to go back to that first stage that you have in a relationship, where you go to the movies and kiss in the rain and she just wants to be swept off her feet again ;)
Girls love that, and seriously if that isn't what she means, then just try it anyway.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 February 2009): I think it could mean a lot of different things. I would say, given that she is young she wants you to make her feel feminine. To make her feel special and desired. To make her feel validated in her femininity. It could be a bit confusing, but try imagining a situation in which you would feel especially masculine, and a situation which would make you feel like a "real man". One of the things you probably feel in such a situation is that you were the best, that you handled a situation better than any other man, or that you were looked up to.
The equivalent of feeling super-feminine is to be in the center of attention, to be be perceived as the most attractive and special woman in someones life. The use of the word girl instead of woman probably also means that she wants to give up some of her responsibility and for you to take charge of some situations and present her with a ready choice. That are some of he ideas that come to my mind, but the key thing here is that she wants to be validated as a "girl", now what constitutes the idea of "girl" in her mind I don't know. Sometimes "girl" and "woman" means the same sometimes they mean the opposite of each other, because one describes an adult female and the other a young one, but both describe a female. I have noticed that you use the word "lady" a lot. May she feels tired of being treated as a "lady" and wants to be treated as someone younger and more fun.
just some thoughts.
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female
reader, Emilysanswers +, writes (3 February 2009):
You really have to learn to just be honest rather than try to look good.
Ask her what she means.
It could be that she doesn't feel like your girlfriend since you only talk about practical things. It could be she feels like she has to be the man and make decisions and look after your feelings all the time. It could mean she feels like your mother and has to look after you all the time.
Ask her and find out.
Good Luck!! xx
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female
reader, unique-angel +, writes (3 February 2009):
Awww sorry but you sound so understanding with her that it's nice to hear!!
maybe she would like to be surprised a little bit, email her, text, ring her at random times. Say romantic things. just make her heart melt basically. Say things that will make her feel your presence even though your not there and make her blish !
good luck
xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 February 2009): It could be that because of the nature of your relationship - i.e. long distance - she is missing the physical side of things. I reckon you should try to make a supreme effort to be with her as often as possible, or she may just go off the boil and start looking around. Just my opinion of course.
Good luck.
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