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writes:What does it mean if my boyfriend and I don't have sex as often as we used to? He says he is so tired lately but for some reason I feel like he isn't as interested or attracted to me. We don't live together, and we are both 19, if that is any help. Thanks! Reply to this Question
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reader, Intrigued40s +, writes (1 January 2009):
Hello anonimous 19 f. My experience is that the longer you wait to have sex with someone the more you find out about their personalities. That way, when you have sex, it is not only because you find that person physically atractive but also because your feelings have a stronger base. Sex is a wonderful experience that can be shared with a stranger or even alone by yourself but friendship usually last more than a lovemaking sesion. If all of what I say is wrong because you have a very long relationship and you know each other really good you wouldn't be confused. Maybe your experience with the oposite sex is not really much and you have no other gays in your past to compare this current boybfriend. If we consider that initially a man comes to you because he finds you atractive then why he wouldn't be after several times of intimacy?. I'm sure you have asked yourself if your lovemaking skills may have something to do. If you are a passive lover that enjoys receiving but he is someone who likes to be dominated or at least someone that enjoys your participation he may feel desapointed and may not want to bring the subject so you don't feel bad or get confrontational with him. Some men enjoy certain practicies that may not know how to share about them like foot fetish, anal sex etc. That is where the comunication before hand becomes helpful and may not be too late to discuse everything comes to your mind and encourage him to do the same. I hope I was able to share my thoughts with you.
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reader, pietry  +, writes (1 January 2009):
 Perhaps he has something on his mind or some problem of some sort. If he says he is tired he probably is, but that doesn't mean he is not attracted to you or he has somebody else. You should speak to him and see what problem he has ( might be a problem of some other nature .. school, work, friends, family ) that is affecting him. Communication is the best solution in this case...
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (1 January 2009):
 Talk to him. Most likely it's not that he isn't attracted to you, but something else is going on for sure.
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