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writes:When i fool about with my boyfriend i get close to cuming but i never can, i have just started this kind of stuff is it suppose to be like this, i havent had sex with him yet, although im not a virgin. What is it supose to feel like just in general and how can i make it last? Reply to this Question
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reader, xxxsoulsistaxxx +, writes (9 March 2007):
 I believe that women need to experiment and learn about their bodies alone before anyone else can satisfy them. We are complicated creatures when it comes to orgasms and it doesn't happen easily for most of us. It's all very phsychological, not just physical like it can be for men. Our head needs to be in it too, or we've got no chance.
So if you're nervous or worried, you won't get anywhere. Also, you don't even know what an orgasm feels like or how to have one, so how are you supposed to teach someone else? Maybe spend some time alone getting to know yourself, either invest in some toys or just manually. I think, once you get to know what you're body wants, you'll find things start to fall into place with your partner too. You'll be more confident sexually within yourself and also so you can tell him what he needs to do.
Hope this has helped, stick with it, it takes time for us ladies! It's worth it in the end though!
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reader, Farris +, writes (5 March 2007):
 There's no one way to make it happen, and there's no one way to describe it. Different women feel it differently.
I think the easiest way to describe it would be to say that you feel a big build up of tension in your body as you get closer to climax, and then as you orgasm, your whole body just tenses up, before releasing itself. You then feel really calm and relaxed. Believe me, you'll know when it happens and words don't do it justice.
Exploring your body is a natural part of growing up, so don't be dismayed about ways that your body does or doesn't react. It's nice that you and your boyfriend are going through this phase together. Just keep practising and communicate with him what you like and what you don't like. Sooner or later, you'll have an orgasm.
In the mean time, don't be afraid to explore your body by yourself. After all, you can react to your body better yourself, as you can feel exactly what you want and don't have to try to communicate that to your partner.
Just have fun and enjoy yourself!
Best wishes.
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