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*aniboiy
writes:During last semester a girl of my class started gazing at me which I noticed two or three times but I just turned my attention to some other work because initially I wasn't interested.Then I and my friend were talking about our group assignment when suddenly she interrupted as she was sitting in my back chair and asked me "What is your topic?" I answered "That finance, but I'm thinking about changing it" and she answered "That you should keep it to finance" and I nodded and turned my head and started talking to my friend.Then my interest in her started to grow after I noticed her looking at me twice or thrice more. Then came our final exams and during my last final she again was again gazing. During the same day, I went over to my course coordinator and asked for fee submission date and came to know that Monday was the last date, so I was stuck with what to do, she and her friend were also in the same room. I was talking to the coordinator when suddenly her friend said that I should extend my fee date and she looked at me and said the same. I said Ok.Now comes this, my last semester. On the very first day, I went to the same coordinator's office to have my course waived off, when suddenly she came in the office too for her own work. I asked her that what is her problem and she said that she wanted to take an additional course and I guided her what to do and all. Then I was going to my class when suddenly she sitting in her group of friends and suddenly called me “Daniyal DaniyaL’ . I turned around and she asked “what became of your problem” I answered the whole thing with interest and that was it. Now what has happened is that I now receive no signals from her, no more. I have talked to her thrice on matters regarding studies and in which auditorium is our class etc. But I don't receive any signals from her.Two or three basic things to know here is that she covers her head, secondly she talks to people generally from our who come and ask her about something and lastly she also has a group mate who is her good friend with whom she shares a laugh or two alsoMy question is that was it all a general thing that happened or not? Because as far as I know she never initiates a talk with a guy and someone like me with there hasn't even been a "Hi or a hello". I have never heard calling a guy with his name with whom she doesn't have a talk with. Also, I never knew her name six months before this and she had been in my class since a year and a half and now she has grown on me and I do not know what to do.Next, i was very frustrated and my friend told me that there is no point in thinking about her etc. etc. The same day i went to my class and sat with my friend. HEr friends entered and said something to the teacher and i shook my head and put my head down, next she entered and while i was holding my head down came and asked "Ahmed, have u done the quiz?' I asked "which quiz", she answered "Supply chain" i answered "Yes" She again said "Supply chain" i said "yes i've done it" and she went.I did not talk to her for 2 days and then again had a conversation but i get the feeling that she isn't very into the conversation.On 14 feb yup the valentine's day, i had decided again that i wouldn't initiate now, but our class was due to end at 2 pm. Her friend with whom she comes hurriedly went out of the class at 1:50 pm, she was also about to leave when the teacher asked her to stay until the class gets over.She was sitting, i went up to her and said "Could u talk to me 2 mins after the class ends" and she said "YEs" i waited and after the class was over, i went out and she was gone and that was something that i felt really bad. COuld anyone help me with my dilemma plz??? PLZ Reply to this Question
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reader, daniboiy +, writes (22 May 2011):
daniboiy is verified as being by the original poster of the questionBut she herself agreed to it after giving a bit of thought right at that moment.After that, they next day she sat in front of me giving me a feeler that i should talk or something but i did not. Next, she went off to indonesia for a debate competition for 10 days. I did not add her on facebook neither asked how was her stay at singapore. When she returned, she again was roaming in front of me giving me a feeler that i should talk. But, i was waiting for her to say something. Also, two days later i was looking randomly in class when i suddenly saw her. She was staring at me in anger, i saw for a few seconds and then turned my eyes and told my friend that she is staring me, my friend started laughing.A week later, i decided to tell her my true feelings about her.I waited for her outside my class for a very long time. She came out very late and when she walked past me i called her name but i think she couldn't hear. I followed her all the way and caught her standing and talking to another guy. I again called her name, she looked and again started talking to her friend. I sat down hoping that she would come once the conversation ends. When it ended she went to the bathroom, i went up to the canteen besides the bathroom waiting for her to come out. When she came i again called her, she looked at me somewhat like looking at an insect. She asked "what, is there something important" in a very rude manner as if she wasn't wanting to listen to anything. I said"no, go". Next i don't remember wholly what she said but i remember that she said that "I have my own set of friends and friendship is not OK with me".I don't know what happened to her, i wasn't expecting her saying this even before i said something.
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reader, daniboiy +, writes (22 May 2011):
daniboiy is verified as being by the original poster of the questionBut she herself agreed to it after giving a bit of thought right at that moment.After that, they next day she sat in front of me giving me a feeler that i should talk or something but i did not. Next, she went off to indonesia for a debate competition for 10 days. I did not add her on facebook neither asked how was her stay at singapore. When she returned, she again was roaming in front of me giving me a feeler that i should talk. But, i was waiting for her to say something. Also, two days later i was looking randomly in class when i suddenly saw her. She was staring at me in anger, i saw for a few seconds and then turned my eyes and told my friend that she is staring me, my friend started laughing.A week later, i decided to tell her my true feelings about her.I waited for her outside my class for a very long time. She came out very late and when she walked past me i called her name but i think she couldn't hear. I followed her all the way and caught her standing and talking to another guy. I again called her name, she looked and again started talking to her friend. I sat down hoping that she would come once the conversation ends. When it ended she went to the bathroom, i went up to the canteen besides the bathroom waiting for her to come out. When she came i again called her, she looked at me somewhat like looking at an insect. She asked "what, is there something important" in a very rude manner as if she wasn't wanting to listen to anything. I said"no, go". Next i don't remember wholly what she said but i remember that she said that "I have my own set of friends and friendship is not OK with me".I don't know what happened to her, i wasn't expecting her saying this even before i said something.
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reader, j321  +, writes (22 May 2011):
I think that if she does not have the interest to continue talking to you and just wants to be freinds on facebook but she will hang out with other guys. There is something very odd about that. You have approched her with your interest, if she is not showing interest in you then move on.
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reader, daniboiy +, writes (21 May 2011):
daniboiy is verified as being by the original poster of the questionFirst she herself starts gazing at me and giving me all sorts of signals and then according to you she is avoiding me????You know what this time also she herself came up to me to talk about something and after that i asked her this question to which she answered this. Secondly, I am from Pakistan. You should be aware of the cultural norms here, at least you do have an idea. Now can you please answer what she meant?She doesn't hang out with guys outside the university but inside the university she does talk to guys who she knows well and shares laughs. Outside she also goes on get together's if other girls accompany her.
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reader, j321 +, writes (20 May 2011):
Some girls are really shy, does she have other boys she hangs out with? If so then she is avoiding you, if not you need to be persistant and paitient. Sometimes love is not easy
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reader, daniboiy +, writes (18 May 2011):
daniboiy is verified as being by the original poster of the questionNEXT, i did not reply for two weeks as i was myself upset.I went upto her and said that i wanted to talk to you. When i thought that i had made enough distance i said " I had a thing to say to you", she replied " Oh yes, i forgot that day". I asked "Why did you forget?", she replied "You should have reminded me". I answered "How could have I reminded you when you wnet off so fast". I asked "ANyways, the thing is that, we have been class-mates for so long, can we be friends?". She looked down for a second and said "Friends, as in friends on facebook?", I said :Umm no", She gain looked down thinking and said "I think acquaintance is fine", then she looked down again for a second and said "Because i am a reserved sort of a person, and i don't feel comfortable", then she looked down again thinking, " I said don't take it in that sense", She nodded. Sahe looked up and said "Hmm OK" and that was the end. Now what is that, such a confusing answer. Now you will gain say that go and talk and find out what she meant. For how long will I keep doing this. I was man enough to go and talk to her and yet she did not give a straight answer!!
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reader, j321 +, writes (18 May 2011):
She is shy and she thinks you're really hot. When a girl stares at you it is their way of letting you know they want you. I think it is a good idea to ask her out and start a relationship with her.
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