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female
age
36-40,
anonymous
writes:Nearly 18 months ago I exchanged numbers with my friend's friend (she had slept with him but nearly 6 years before and nothing more than that.) and after seeking her permission of which she never said she didn't like the idea - I was seeing him for around 6 months but I wasn't too sure where I stood with him. However, my friend came to not like the idea and put me through hell for it, but she still met up with him as a friend (he got no blame) and apparently he said bad things againt me. Anyway, nearly 10 months later, since I last heard from him, he's started texting me again. I haven't replied to any of the messages or calls. I really don't understand what he wants from me? He knew that I really liked him and he knows what it causes between my friend and I but the more he texts and rings the more tempted I am to reply. What does he want? What should I do? I am with someone else right now, but can't stop thinking of this guy.
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reader, Anastasia  +, writes (10 June 2012):
 Hi, I was reading your letter and the first thing that I asked myself was ...who told you that he said bad things about you? Was it your friend? The same one that led you to believe she was okay with it but then changed her mind when she saw you were happy with someone she only slept with?? Unfortunately, you cannot do anything about that now..and I agree with Not Done Yet, you have no closure with this guy. But you are in a fulfilling relationship now and he is popped up and a wound has been open. I always believe in honesty, so I think you should reply, confront him about what he ALLEGEDLY said behind your back and let him know that you are quite happy with someone now and what happened happened, please cease to contact you.You cannot go back in time to fix anything and you certainly do now want to hurt the person that you are with. So get the closure you need and cut the ties.Great Luck
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