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female
age
30-35,
anonymous
writes: I had class with this guy I never really talked to for three years. Towards the end of the third year (my senior year and his junior year of high school) he asked for my number and started to flirt with me. Summer came. We talked a lot on the phone for about a month. I grew more and more fond of him. He would say really sweet things every once in a while and encourage me. He does not have a cell so it is hard to stay in contact with him. I only can talk to him when he calls me. We hung out a few times over the summer. He came over and we went all the way (my 1st time). The next 6 weeks he didn't call me. Two months later we started to talk about once a week on the phone and he says a lot of sweet things. He says that he didn't call me for a while because he lost my number...I believe him. I suggest a relationship and he says he likes me but it would be hard to stay in contact and that wouldn't be fair to me so it would be better if we just remained the way we are... whatever that is. I agreed. Does he like me... or does he just want to "get some"? Also, what should I do? I want to be with him but only if he is committed to me and only me. At the same time I want as much as I can have with him, but I don't want to get hurt. I don't know what to do.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 January 2008): It sounds like he used you. It also sounds like he thinks you're having this wild life now that you're out of college. He probably gained confidence after the two of you had sex, and maybe he's started dating more. Maybe telling him that you want either to start a serious relationship or to end things, would help you get an answer.
Do you really see yourself marrying a person who didn't call you for 6 weeks after he took your virginity? If you don't, move on. There are plenty of other people out of high school that are ready for a serious relationship. He doesn't sound like he could ever be what you want him to be.
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (5 January 2008):
 It seems like you are only a part time g/f at his beck and call.If a man says he cannot be committed into a relationship , it means he is not into you . The only answer to your question is a 'YES or a NO!' Period!
Just be a friend and you won't get hurt.
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