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female
age
41-50,
anonymous
writes:I was seeing a guy for about 6 weeks. I'm his first non one night stand since he and his long term girlfriend broke up a year ago. We were friends for quite a while before that. There were a couple times when I was drunk and had a bit of a freak out on him, but I apologized and he said it was okay, and we actually had a great relationship. A week ago, he started acting funny and we broke it off, he said he didn't ever want to have an actual relationship with me because of the freak outs and some other things. It got really ugly. He continued to text me trying to drag it on (our argument) until I told him to stop. Then Friday night I was out with friends and ended up hanging out with his best friend all night. Someone told him that we were hanging out and he started texting his friend asking what his friend was doing with me, etc. Then Saturday, he started texting me nasty texts in the afternoon saying that he thought it was really funny that now I was hanging out with his friends, etc. I asked him why it mattered to him, and he said, "oh it doesn't. I just think its funny because you never wanted to hang out with them when we were together." We argued back and forth for a while, and I finally ignored him. Saturday night, he started texting nasty texts again, and I finally called him and told him if he had something to say he could say it to my face, and he ended up coming to where I was.When he showed up, we went to go talk, and he told me that he was sorry, that he couldn't believe how jealous I made him by hanging out with his friends, and that he missed me. He said "I think we just had our first fight." And I was like, "I think that was a bit more than a fight, we broke up!" Either way, we ended up hanging out all night and I stayed at his house. This morning everything was great and I went home. I texted him a while later to see what he was doing and he was kind of weird. I finally told him, "hey... can we maybe try to start this over?" And he sent back "yes, new start. slow start? I need my time."I'm not quite sure what he meant by that. We've texted back and forth tonight and everything seems okay... I just don't know exactly what to do here. I don't know if he really wants to try and start over or if he's just trying to shut me up... There were some pretty mean things said between us during the last week, and honestly, I thought he hated me. I want to try and work on things, but I don't want to get emotionally invested again if he's going to do the same thing again. Any ideas on what I should do??
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reader, i cant stop  +, writes (26 March 2010):
i think i can help i know this is a girl question but who knows a guy better than a guy . fights that you two have will bring you guys closer together , you guys may says stupid shit that you dont mean and hey if he wants to start over id try but if he just try to shut you up you have a voice use it and dump his ass 2 chances max . Good luck hop e i helped
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