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writes:hi... everyone i'm 18yrs old boy and i'm a virgin...i luv a girl and we panning to have sex...but i have a few question on this....i want to know what foreplay really envolves my friends say kissing, hugging,licking vagina and even anus....but seems a bit weird to me earlier but now i feel a bit interested in this....so i wanna know especially from girls that they really like to have their vagina and anus licked,i'm sorry if i'm using weird language and i don't know better words to use....so please help me and if u all can tell me what more can be done in foreplay so that can feel confident with my girlfriend....thanks....
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 November 2009): First of all, don't try everything at once. I can sense that you are a little apprehensive and rightly so...you dont need to get all experiences out of the way in one sitting.
How about taking things more slowly and getting to know each other and your bodies properly before having sex?
Kissing and hugging is really nice and if you want to move onto a sexual relationship, why not try taking it in stages? Touch each other, learn about what you both like, and what you both don't like.
If your gonna try oral sex, maybe discuss it first - and if you can't, your not yet ready for sex! So dont rush it, you wont enjoy it. I tell you to discuss it in case your girlfriend is a virgin too - you dont want your good foreplay work to scare her off unintentionally. Find out her views.
As a female myself, i can tell you we wont laugh at you for trying. We'll appreciate your efforts. If you love each other, it should be natural and comfortable.
BUT crucially: if you plan to have sex...please please please use contraception. Talk to your girlfriend about her preferred methods also and PRACTICE putting on a condom (if you havent already) before having intercourse. Its really important you get that bit right! And especially, if your girlfriend has a sexual history. Be safe!
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reader, old-spinstah  +, writes (24 November 2009):
The words you are using are perfect - much better to use the correct anatomical terms!
As far as foreplay goes - anything goes. Different people are turned on by different things, by having different parts of their bodies stroked or kissed - no part of the body should be out-of-bounds as long as BOTH people are enjoying it. Ears, toes, thighs, nipples, backs etc. It may be necessary to ask the other person what they like (or don't like) but most of the time you can guess by your partner's response.
One tip is that if your partner does it to you - do it back to them. If she kisses your neck, or strokes your back - return the favour and see what happens.
It's difficult to generalise about "what women want" but mostly - we love having our vaginas licked, particularly the clitoris. Some girls are a little embarrassed at first. More girls are embarrassed about having their anuses licked (because society tells us that it's unhygienic) but there are plenty of women out there who do like it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 November 2009): Is she a virgin too? If not then tell her you are a virgin and ask her what she'd like you to do.
What you need to make sure is that her vagina is wet before you try intercourse! To get her wet, you need foreplay. This is often kissing, touching her, maybe even start with a massage before you even enter the bedroom. Kiss her over her body, slowly and gently rub her between the legs with your fingers. But do not go straight to her vagina with your hand, explore the rest of her body first, and let her vagina and clit be the last place you go! Massage her breats, lick her nipples, and yes kissing and licking her pussy is very good foreplay for a girl, but as it's your first time, don't try for too long because it takes practice to do it right. Maybe a minute of licking her before you kiss her breasts again or any other part of her body. Remember to not do one thing too much, but watch her facial expressions and listen to the noises she makes to see what she enjoys!
Best of luck! And have at least 10-20 minutes of foreplay, see how she feels, and if you and her feel ready go for it, but using 40 minutes to foreplay is perfectly fine too, it all depends on how good you two feel.
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