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writes:Valentines IdeaBasically I really want to do something special for my crush. I know its elaborate but I wanted to do something different. I wondered what you girls (And guys) thought of it and how it'd make you feel. I was thinking of the usual, roses to the door, few on her car (am), and attached with a small card/note. With a little rhyme then saying she has to choose A or B from the house. (Her granparents, who I would speak to beforehand) would have two envelopes marked A and B and she would have to choose between them. (Both would contain the same thing but she'd not know) - and inside would be a letter giving her details on her first vocal coach lesson! Its something she wants to do but despite it being cheap shes very scared and would never go for it by herself.And the card would just read secret admirer.Good idea or not? Any suggestions?
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reader, BettyBoup +, writes (4 January 2011):
 Ooh yeh, if she is not actually your girlfriend this might be a bit much. A sweet idea, but if she doesn't feel the same way it could put her in an awkward possition. She could feel overwhelmed and feel like she owed you.
If you really like this girl and want to be her boyfriend but are unsure if she likes you the same way, why not start by asking her out? Were you thinking of waiting til Valentines and giving her this surprise would make her decide to go out with her? If she is unsure of you this could put her off.
I'd suggest try small and romantic. Don't bombard the girl. If you really think you have a chance with her and just want to wait til Valentines to woo her, then by all means but sometimes less is more. Perhaps the flowers and vocal coaching without all the pick A or B business.
But if you are her boyfriend, ignore the above. It sounds like you know her well, so I could be wrong here.
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reader, Tbosse  +, writes (4 January 2011):
 Roses, romantic dinner, cruise can also do well.goodluck
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reader, angelDlite +, writes (3 January 2011):
 hi
well you know this girl better than any of us strangers do so its your call. maybe you could ask her grandparents what they think if you are friendly with them already. for a girlfriend i would say this is a lovely idea for a gift! however if she is only a crush, she might think this is a bit much. how well does she know or like you? the last thing you want to do is over step the mark and scare her off. could you just do the roses bit and then if that works out well and you start going out with her, surprise her with the singing lesson in the near future as a birthday gift or a 'just-because' gift
xx
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reader, BettyBoup +, writes (3 January 2011):
It sounds like a really sweet, thoughtful idea. Very romantic. If she's the kind of girl who likes that kind of thing, I can't see why she wouldn't love it! Even if she's not into hearts and flowers she would certainly be touched by the thought and effort you put in for her. And the vocal coaching is something personal to her, so she has to like that. If she's scared, offer to take her and give her encouragement.
You sound like a lovely boyfriend. So many guys can't be bothered with romance, which is a shame really!
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