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writes:im dating a girl but she has a boyfriend. she told me the first time we met so she never lied to me. we talk everyday and we like each other a lot.. she tells me that she likes me more but shes been with him for 5 years now and she cant just leave.. i understand if shes telling the truth. but im also not a fool, im having fun thats why im still going on with her but now im wondering if we can have a future i guess.. she says shes just goin wit the flow and i kno shes into me and she really does go out her way for me.. but the other day i looked at her cell and my name was sum1 elses name on her cell and i heard her pick up a phone call from her bf an she called him babe.. and its not the first time she picked up a call from him and askin me if it was ok but hearing it was awkward.. ive played around like she has but im just wondering other ppls input..
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reader, GrimmReality +, writes (12 August 2009):
 You reap what you sow. You will be left along the way. and why would you want to be with someone whom you cheated with? she will do it to you as well..
Grow up, be a man, be honest with yourself....no good is coming out of this.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 August 2009): Sorry man, but you can't really expect any different. She's not being dishonest (at least, not with you). She's told you all about her boyfriend, and is very happy to have two men on the go.
If you're OK with that, you'll have to put up with any feelings of jealousy that ensue. Hearing her call him 'babe' may be a tad painful, but it must have crossed your mind that she's presumably still having sex with him, and if you can handle that, a phone call really shouldn't upset you that much.
If you can't handle the situation, you need to tell her this, and let her decide which man she wants more.
Good luck!
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reader, Miss williamz  +, writes (12 August 2009):
 My dear the girl is scared to be left alone thats why shez clingin on u yet shes got her man.. She loves the boyfriend and having a future with she daint see it..i knw your just having fan.but wil come youl b into her and you wont be able to tolerate the thing with her boyfriend. So for ur sake keep some distance with the girl and see what shes gona do.. If she comes back ask her to stop toyin with u 2 and she makes her decision before many hearts are hurt..
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reader, aphexinfinite  +, writes (12 August 2009):
 i feel sorry for her bf who hasnt a clue that shes cheating on him he deserves better than someone who doesnt value people more than herself.. i never believe in cheatin or lying they are two things that is wrong with this world and only seems more people do it..we have achoice to make things better it may not always be the best thing for us but its the right thing..let me tell you this if you and her did have afuture and she got rid of her bf do you think she would do the same to you ? she seems to think its ok on her bf so why would you be any different ? have fun but your going to get burnt playing with fire and i really feel sorry for her bf poor guy.. thats my input! aphex
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