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female
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30-35,
anonymous
writes:I have been dating this guy for 3 years now, and i really care about him. But we have hit a rough patch these past few months. He isn't being very nice, and certainly not sweet and romantic. I talked to him and he said he would try to be nicer. But now its me that is having a hard time being close to him which is making things worse for him. We started dating verry young.. i was barely 15 and i had not dated many guys. i thought i was completely content with him. but about 2 years into the relationship everthing caught up with me. I was wanting to mess around with guys again..but i didnt wanna lose my boyfriend, we tried taking breaks..breaking up..but nothing ever lasted more than a week. Then i made a huge mistake and messed around with a friend of mine. I told my boyfriend right away and we worked it out. Everything was going pretty good again, up until about 3 months ago. I started to have those feelings again, but i pushed them aside. Part of the reason i ignored it was because i have very poor self esteem and i knew that no guy would wanna be with me. My boyfriend loves me for ME and that includes all my flaws... BUUUT a few weeks ago my bf and me went to visit his friend at college. the 3 of us were sitting around just chattin..when his friend (lets call him frank) said that me, my bf, "frank" and franks gf should have a 4some. But frank said only my bf could have sex with me and only frank could have sex with his gf...but me and his gf could mess around. (we are bi-curious) so we said yea sure..everyone was ok with it..frank texted his gf and asked her and she said yea too.Later that night we got totally wasted. Frank was being weird and trying to get me to look at his penis..and my bf told me to show him my boobs to make it fair..and being drunk i did. Frank kept saying tat i should give him a blow job or that we should have a 3some right now... we almost did but i kept saying no..cuz your gf will be mad. (i know his gf and i like her. i wouldnt wanna hurt her) so nothing happened.but thr next day frank kept flirting with me. we were driving and my bf fell asleep. frank was behind me and kept looking at me in the mirror, everytime i looked away he would chuckle slightly. then one time getting back in the car my bf was walking around to the other side and frank said "sometimes it really sucks to be in a relationship while at college..maybe i should talk to her about an open relationship" he said it directly to me. then he kept gettin all protective if guys would look at me.i was weirded out by all this but i thought maybe it was nothing. But every time i have seen him since then he finds ways to touch me..from laying on me..to brushing by me. he always tries to make me laugh. so i texted him once asking him what he meant by the open relationship comment and he said " i wasnt serious, anything i ever say about any girl isnt serious. i would never cheat on *****(his gf) if tats what your implying..." then i asked him about something he said another time and he said " im not comfortable talking bout this. your my best friends gf. I dont wanna get mixed in if your having mixed feelings." and yet he continues to flirt with me.. and respond if i flirt. he always asks me to play online games with him..(ps3..and he always wants me to set up my bluetooth so we can talk) idk what to think. what do you think is going on here? what should i do?HELP!!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 May 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionwell he lives a few hours away so my bf and i show up at the same time...we have to.
Plus that is just his sense of humor..kinda demanding, but he really isnt.
i plan on keeping a distance...
but its not like frank has the guts to say anything to me...
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 May 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the question*UPDATE!
i honestly reallly like the attention my bf friend is giving me...and yes my bf knows that we talk online..whether its on myspace, or while playing a playstation3 game..we even text a lot. at least a few times a day.
annd..about the texting thing..he only used to text my phone to talk to my boyfriend..but my bf rescently got texting...
and "frank" continues to text me.
plus something weird happened very recently...my bf and i were supposd to go visit him for a day and i told frank a few days before...well the morning that we were leaving frank texted me while my bf was in class. the text said "get here now lol"
so when my bf got home i asked him if he had talked to frank...he said yea he had been talking to him since noon..my bf thought frank had texted me AFTER they had talked...but frank texted me FIRST!
i looked at the times on my phone and my bf phone..i got my text 20 minutes before my bf texted him...
AH!!! help please!!!!
Oh, and thanks for your opinion Gina!
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