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*onjovi_ie
writes:I have just started seeing somebody and last weekend he went to visit friends, which is grand, he text to say he was going and then nothing. I text him worried that he didn't make it there or back and got no reply so i rang and also got no reply. Two days later i got a txt to say he had no credit and could not text back. Has he lost interest in me already. I reallllly reallly like this guy a lot and don't know what to do. I spent the weekend crying when i didn't hear from him. Im going out of my mind now afraid to text and also not wanting to come across as desperate but i want tosee him again and don't know what to do. Please help me.
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reader, bonjovi_ie +, writes (29 January 2009):
bonjovi_ie is verified as being by the original poster of the questionA big thank you you have all been really helpful so THANK YOU!
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reader, Tisha-1  +, writes (29 January 2009):
 If he texted you to tell you he had no credit to text you any more, couldn't he have sent you a longer text and said a bit more than that? I hate to tell you that it's not sounding good to me right at this moment, because I'm afraid you're going to take it rather hard.
May I say that you sound a bit too emotionally invested in this guy already? You've only been seeing him a short time, and if he perceives you as being desperate, this will most likely drive him away.
So deep breaths, calm down, quiet your mind and deliberately place your focus on other things. Call up girlfriends and talk for hours, clean your house, organize your wardrobe with headphones on, playing your favorite music. Distract yourself, and get out of the house. Maybe it would be a good idea to get a girlfriend to be your surrogate textee. If you feel like textng him, text her instead. Basically, I want you to back off, and give him a chance to come to you, get in touch with you. If he doesn't, then you'll know he's really kind of a jerk. If he does, well, now you'll have a bit more composure and dignity because you've managed to keep your head here.
(Are you in the 30-35 year age range?)
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reader, lildeesbg +, writes (29 January 2009):
 Well the positive thing is that you guys just started dating, which makes the POSSIBLE departure not that bad. My outlook on this situations is that he is the one that is away, therefore it is on him to contact you. You have made the effort and he knows you are open to communication, the rest is on him. Dont be so quick to say its over.You guys arent an official couple which means he probably feels that he doesnt need to contact you everyday. Just wait it out. He has your number and eventually he will be heading back home.
~dee
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 January 2009): I have the exactly the same issue, with a girl Ive recently started seeing, I have no idea what hell is going on to be honest, but my friends advised me move on and maybe they're right.
I mean is it so much to ask, for someone to do what they say they will do? It seems there's a few of these feckers around, maybe it's a new dating practice we haven't heard of yet.
"The be a c**t, ignore them and leave them hanging" technique.
I'm gonna do what the lads suggested though and just move on, cos if they're willing to do this kinda crap from the start, then it's not gonna get any better, you should probably do the same.
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