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writes:I must be crazy...I very recently decided that I should move in with my boyfriend of a year and a bit. He's not that financially stable, but he loves me, and I love him...But I've recently come across my oldest friend. We knew each other since we were in grade 3, but she moved in grade 4..staying in contact until grade 7 or 8.A few months ago we found each other again, and since then I just can't stop thinking about her. We're both bisexuals...but it's so crazy! I know it is! It's like humans are self-destructive by nature.And my boyfriend's huge lack of ambition is doing nothing to help lower my esteem of this passionate female. I think about how my boyfriend won't even get up and find a job, even when jobs are offered to him, and I think "Why am I with someone like this?"But this isn't it. She's not single. Well, not exactly. She's been talking to a girl from China for the last month or so, in very romantic ways, but still has everything online (like Facebook) statused to single. I'm not really jealous of it at all, because I want my crush to be happy...But at the same time, I think of how much better I could be with her, as there are no oceans between us, maybe two hours at most...Gosh. How silly is this?But the happiness I feel around her...I don't think I'll tell her I'm crushing on her...I just want to be near her, and talk to her.Should I just hope that some day things just work out and we'll both be free at the same time? I think it's the noble thing to do.What do you, the agony aunt, think of my situation?
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reader, kurlyq2121  +, writes (13 July 2008):
 Well the happiness you fell around probably is love. If you don't tell her you'll probably always regret not doing so. Go for your dreams girl! =]
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reader, PsyCookie +, writes (13 July 2008):
 I think you should give it time to make sure of your feelings. Many people feel sparks at first with some friends they have when they first meet them for a long time, and you may be in the same situation. Don't really do something impulsive, like leave your boyfriend for her until you have made sure you want this. Like I said, take your time. Take at least a couple of months to see if your feelings for her are the same.
And it's not really silly, it's just life. And life is just plain weird. Let time (or fate) do its work with your life and lets see what happens. Dont let her know you have a crush on her just yet, but until you made sure you like her for real. And also, give your boyfriend a chance. Probably the months you'll take to sort your feelings for your friend will give him the time to find a job and make you feel even more special.
Well, I hope everything works out for you. Good luck
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