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writes:Hey! This is mainly a question for guys out there - I'm just wondering; when you think about an ex that you would still want back, what are the reasons you miss them or hold on to them still? (apart from loving them etc) - Maybe qualities they have/had or how they treated you etc?I would be really interested to know and would be helpful for me :)Thanks! Reply to this Question
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reader, donutsoup  +, writes (13 July 2016):
I think the general consensus is that you shouldn't go back to an ex, although I know of people personally who have and have happy relationships now with their partners (previously ex).
What kinds of things do I think of? Well I am in week 4 of being broken up, and still trying to get beyond this. But I miss the little things, holding hands, especially while riding in the same car on road trips. Surfing, braiding her hair, the make-out sessions, the deep talks. That stuff.
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reader, RubyBirtle +, writes (20 June 2016):
It depends if he's the dumper or the dumpee
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (20 June 2016):
 I think people OFTEN look back on exes with either "black" or "rose" colored glasses.
If they feel lonely and don't have a new partner, they might start to miss an ex. They will disregard the REASON they broke up and all the negative things and be nostalgic about the past. And they will try and "color" the ex more positive for a while.
I agree with BrownWolf that wanting to be with an ex is usually futile. There probably was a GOOD reason it didn't work out in the first place, that won't change because you feel lonely, desperate or nostalgic.
And EX is an EX for a reason. WHO cares what they think?
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 June 2016): I miss knowing I had someone to come home too.. other than that don't miss the cheating abusive bastard
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 June 2016): I kinda mean what makes u miss them... Not necessarily that you'd go back :)
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reader, BrownWolf  +, writes (20 June 2016):
Question...When you throw up, do you go back and eat it???
An ex should be seen in the same way...You NEVER go back, always move forward to better.
I get the idea of going back to an ex rather than moving forward. You know them, were comfortable with them. You are in pain and losing them is the cause of it. So...maybe if you get back together the pain will stop.
The question you should be asking is...How many people go back to their ex and live happily ever after??
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reader, Sageoldguy1465 +, writes (20 June 2016):
 There is one ex- who I would like to have back... briefly..... Just long enough to recover my Silverware, which she stole from me. If you think you might know who I'm talking about... I/M me and we can see if we can convince her to return it (the Silverware).....
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