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*aniboiy
writes:During last semester a girl of my class started giving me glaring looks which I noticed two or three times but I just turned my attention to some other work because initially I wasn't interested. Then I and my friend were talking about our group assignment when suddenly she interrupted as she was sitting in my back chair and asked me "What is your topic?" I answered "That finance, but I'm thinking about changing it" and she answered "That you should keep it to finance" and I nodded and turned my head and started talking to my friend. Then my interest in her started to grow after I noticed her looking at me twice or thrice more. Then came our final exams and during my last final she again was looking at me glaringly. During the same day, I went over to my course coordinator and asked for fee submission date and came to know that Monday was the last date, so I was stuck with what to do, she and her friend were also in the same room. I was talking to the coordinator when suddenly her friend said that I should extend my fee date and she looked at me and said the same. I said Ok. Now comes this, my last semester. On the very first day, I went to the same coordinator's office to have my course waived off, when suddenly she came in the office too for her own work. I asked her that what is her problem and she said that she wanted to take an additional course and I guided her what to do and all. Then I was going to my class when suddenly she sitting in her group of friends and suddenly called me “Daniyal DaniyaL’ . I turned around and she asked “what became of your problem” I answered the whole thing with interest and that was it. Now what has happened is that I now receive no signals from her, no more. I have talked to her thrice on matters regarding studies and in which auditorium is our class etc. But I don't receive any signals from her.Two or three basic things to know here is that she covers her head, secondly she talks to people generally from our who come and ask her about something and lastly she also has a group mate who is her good friend with whom she shares a laugh or two alsoMy question is that was it all a general thing that happened or not? Because as far as I know she never initiates a talk with a guy and someone like me with there hasn't even been a "Hi or a hello". I have never heard calling a guy with his name with whom she doesn't have a talk with. Also, I never knew her name six months before this and she had been in my class since a year and a half and now she has grown on me and I do not know what to do.Next, i was very frustrated and my friend told me that there is no point in thinking about her etc. etc. The same day i went to my class and sat with my friend. HEr friends entered and said something to the teacher and i shook my head and put my head down, next she entered and while i was holding my head down came and asked "Ahmed, have u done the quiz?' I asked "which quiz", she answered "Supply chain" i answered "Yes" She again said "Supply chain" i said "yes i've done it" and she went.I did not talk to her for 2 days and then again had a conversation but i get the feeling that she isn't very into the conversation.On 14 feb yup the valentine's day, i had decided again that i wouldn't initiate now, but our class was due to end at 2 pm. Her friend with whom she comes hurriedly went out of the class at 1:50 pm, she was also about to leave when the teacher asked her to stay until the class gets over.She was sitting, i went upto her and said "Could u talk to me 2 mins after the class ends" and she said "YEs" i waited and after the class was over, i went out and she was gone and that was something that i felt really bad. COuld any1 help me with my dilemma plz??? PLZ Reply to this Question
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reader, daniboiy +, writes (6 March 2011):
daniboiy is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThis is logical thinking. She doesn't know herself if she is interested or not, please give me a break on that. Initially she starts talking, stares at me and still isn't sure if she is interested or not?
She is confuses. Wow! It doesn't appear as much. She is always laughing, going out with friends etc. It's me who is always talking about one thing, thinking one thing and even a frog could tell what my facial expressions depict and that is Sorrow. My friends have started to snub me a bit due to the fact that I am always talking,thinking and telling one thing.
To do something, there has to be a chance of success. My peers tell me that going directly would result in utter disappointment as if she wanted to listen to something she would have listened on that day no matter what. You tell me if she initially show signals to me and when i ask her to listen to what i have to say, you think she doesn't what am i going to talk about?
You tell me that all those signals (the talking and looks) that the girl gave me where general classmate talk or was it something else?***, because believe me she did all that!
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reader, daniboiy +, writes (4 March 2011):
daniboiy is verified as being by the original poster of the questionYeah i have that possibility in mind that she is not into me, but my feelings are associated with her very much now and that is why i am i want her. so My feelings are definitely going to take a back blow if she refuses to be friends with me. That would be hypocrisy on her part then surely~
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 March 2011): Yeah, you should be able to find out some answers if you talk to her. You should still be prepared for the small possibility that she’s not into you like that anymore. That way you won’t get your feelings hurt. Plus you have less than 20 days now. Maybe you can try to work up the nerves to ask for her email address, so that you can keep contact with her.
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reader, daniboiy +, writes (4 March 2011):
daniboiy is verified as being by the original poster of the questionShe isn't focusing on these things, i can tell you that. After class when there is a break she goes out with her friends to have lunch. She is always having fun in class, so there is no worries that is being depicted by her. It's me who is getting all the pain. Everyone can see that.
Do you think i would get a positive feedback when i talk to her?
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 March 2011): You will just have to try to catch her after class and talk to her. She could be focusing on coursework, family issues, you never know. So the only thing now for you to do is just talk to her before it’s too late. Good luck!
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reader, daniboiy +, writes (4 March 2011):
daniboiy is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI think she has been looking at me secretly but i completely ignored her in the sense that i did not look at her.
How could her interest fade away so easily???? In fact, it was her who took the initiative and if that boy is coming towards you, then you are going away. I mean does it make any sense?? Yes, I like her very much but i now don't know what is her feelings???
My mind is revolving around the same thing, how can her mind be focusing on other things?
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 March 2011): Well, I guess that means that you will have to make the next move. Has she been talking to you at all, or giving you looks? It looks like you will have to start a conversation with her and see if she’s friendly acting towards you. If she doesn’t seem as interested in you anymore, maybe she has started liking someone else, or has other things on her mind. I hope she’s still interested in you cause I can tell that you really like her.
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reader, daniboiy +, writes (3 March 2011):
daniboiy is verified as being by the original poster of the questionOK, maybe she got nervous. Now what should i do? I have merely 20 working days left and then it's over. She doesn't seem to be making any move!
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 March 2011): I think maybe it’s possible that she was trying to see if you liked her by talking to you all those times, and now that she thinks that you might be interested in her, maybe she got nervous when you asked her to wait, and that’s why she left.
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reader, cry  +, writes (26 February 2011):
 Get over her and move on, really.
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