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*ratefulGrace
writes:I had a horrible childhood, I was physically and sexually molested and raped by my step father for 7 years. When I was 20, I met a guy on an online adult site . He was 15 years older then me. I was still living at home and my step father controlled my life. We chatted and after a few weeks I told him what was happening in my life. He encouraged me to leave, even offering to help. He drove 12 hours and picked me when my father wasn't home and took me to rental house that he owned. He let me stay there for free and helped me get a job. He took me a clinic and offered to pay for therapy. Over the next year my father was arrested.He paid all my legal fees . That was over three years ago. When I ask him why he helped me he Said he felt like he was suppose to do it. He has never once asked for anything in return for everything he has done. I have since gotten a job and pay rent but he refuses to let me pay him back. We recently started dating. He is amazing ! I honestly feel like he is my guardian angel. Money isn't an issue for him and even paying him back wouldn't be enough in my eyes . He has literally saved my life. I know he knows that I am.Thankful but I want to do something special for him. What do you do for someone who made your life happy again ?!
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 April 2016): Ok as an abuse survivor I see all sorts of alarming detailsYou were abused for 7 years by stepfather--nowhere do you mention mom or her role in abuse which is 1/3 of your life You met an older man on line and he "rescued" you and now *surprise* he's groomed you to the point you have to ask this question .You've basically had your radar reader f'd up by the abuseYou aren't able at this point to identify another abuserNot saying this guy is a bad guyJust pointing out that your question was about how to convey gratitude to online older white hat heroThe obvious answer is to live a long happy lifeif you haven't twigged to that you are being groomed againTalk to your counselor again If you don’t have one you can call that’s your first action to find one and one not paid for by mr white hat
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (22 April 2016):
 Your story brought a tear to my eye, what an amazing man, we need more people in the world that are like him. He is your hero and you will always feel like that. Accept his fantastic gift of a new life to you and be thankful to him. Are there any local awards where you are for bravery where you could nominate him?
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 April 2016): He sounds amazingly awesome!!!! I feel so happy for you that you found someone like him. And you found him online wow!! I think you should just sit down with him and tell him how much you appreciate him. I also think you sound really strong for telling him about the abuse. Many people would have hid it even online. You two sound like a perfect match for each other.
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reader, Garbo  +, writes (22 April 2016):
 Being yourself is most of the time good enough for people, and if we force the issue, others notice we are fake. So don't stress over what you should do for him because the time hasn't come up yet for you to do stuff in return. Perhaps it might in the future, but that is why uncertainty envelops human life, otherwise, if we knew the future, we may refuse to do what needs done.
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reader, Ivyblue  +, writes (22 April 2016):
 Perhaps yes, there are angels. Sure makes me think about it when reading things like this. Personally, I don't think you can go wrong writing a heart felt hand written letter to express your gratitude. You could always pay his kindness forward to someone else in some way and let him know that it was because of him you found strength and inspiration to do so. Just what your act of kindness may be would be something for you to figure out. Best of luck
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