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writes: I would like some opinion on my situation. I'm 21, and I've never had a boyfriend, never been kissed, and obviously am still a virgin. It's because of lack of opportunity (I'm rather pretty, and I've had people asking me out before) or religious belief, just that I don't want my "firsts" to happen with a guy I don't really really really like (I'm not looking for Prince Charming, just someone who is a generally great person). I don't want everything to be ruined just because it is generally considered that you have to have done this or that by a certain age. I'm comfortable with my choice, but I'm wondering if others see me as a kind of alien.Opinions?
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 November 2006): i was like u...bu when i was 19..i got together with a guy hu was a friend of myn...he knew my thoughts...and how i felt..n promised he wudnt mess me abt..we been together for 3 years...n hopefully wil get married one day...what im trying to say is..what ur doin is gud..let people think what they want..u dont want sum1 too mess u about..u want the real deal...try makin sum male friends at first..get to know them..and then take it one step further..as for never being kissed..dont worrryy...when the ryt man cumsss, jus tell him...say 'dude...to be honest wid u..this is my first ever kiss...' lol..he'll prob feel flatterd n will be more than happy to take lead...god bless u and urs..friend x
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 November 2006): I think that that is a long time to go with out getting pysically close to anyone, most people have to learn allot about themselves in there first relationships and you have to be prepeared for some heart ache along the way.
If your holding out for that one perfect person who gets everything right from the word go im afraid you might be waiting for an awfully long time, remember; everyone makes mistakes, its how we learn from them that matters.
Being intimate with antoher person isn't soemthing to be ashamed of, even if you dont end up spending your lives together it can be an important experience.
sex is the greatest bonding activity and as long as neither partner is selfish you sould find yourselves connecting in ways you'd never thoght possible.
it is allways your choice weather you want to have sex or not, but try to keep an open mind! also you might want to read some sex guides so you dont feel too nieve when the time comes.....
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