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writes: I was having sex with my neighbour and my 10 year old son walked in and saw us. It kind of spoiled the mood just as we were getting into it. I have taught my son to always knock and wait for someone to answer before entering a room.I am a single mother and think that I am entitled to a healthy sex life. My question is what do I say to him about what he saw? Should I have the whole sex talk with him now? Perhaps I could explain that the neighbour and I were getting close and that is how adults show affection when they like each other. Should I act like nothing happened? I don‚t think I should apologize as I havenothing to apologize for and nothing to justify here. Both my neighbour and I are consenting adults. I have taught my son that apologies are offered when someone has done something wrong and I don‚t want him to interpret sex as something incorrect that merits apology.How should I handle things with my neighbour? I want my relationship to continue with him. What are some ideas for having a sex life as a single mother?
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 August 2008): Besides getting a lock, I need to say, have a talk with him about sex and don't allow Taboo to come into your house, otherwise, he will think of his sexual intentions in undirected ways( like towards you) when he gets older.
Be educational with him about sex, and the consequences of having it before one has finally matured and developed. If you can do this, he would grow up fine without any traumas like some of these sick-lost guys posting into these forums.
Best of luck,
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 August 2008): Get a lock on the door!!...It's less than $3.
Enjoy!
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reader, DrPsych  +, writes (24 August 2008):
 Firstly I would say that most 10 year olds know the basics of the birds and the bees from school education and unfortunately the media! You may embarrass him by discussing it so let it go for now unless he asks questions. You could try doing the deed when he is at his friends houses to save the distress in the future.
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reader, DoubleM  +, writes (24 August 2008):
 You do not owe him much (if any) explanation about what was going on or why. The advisors below all provided good advice. A lock on your bedroom door is needed, or you might want to have your fun at his place instead.
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reader, belladonna123  +, writes (24 August 2008):
I agree with the above answer. You don't have anything to apologise for, instead talk to your son about why he didn't knock.Of course you have to do it in such a way that your not "angry" with him. You can explain that you "like" your neighbor (without giving details) and this is what ADULTS do to show affection and tell him when his time comes (for sex)he'll understand.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 August 2008): firstly a lot of kids walk in on they're parents while having intercourse (i did) so even though it obviously wasnt with his dad its basically the same concept and if every1 was scarred for life after walking in on their parents our society would be screwed....(and now im side-tracked i forgot what i was saying even as im reading it)
so dont apologize its natural and someday you might walk in on him (yet again happened to me)
As far as your neighbour you should apologize to him
secondly lock the damn door...
hope that helps somewhat even im still side-tracked....short term memory sux
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