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writes:hey guys im sorry if this is a little long but you need to know the full storry to understand. my best friend is a guy and he likes me, hes liked me for over a year and about 2 month ago he asked me out and i ended up saying yes because i thought that i have nothing to lose by giving him a chance.it turns out that both of us have jobs plus i need to keep my school average over 90 so i spend alot of time studying and were both in after school activities like sports music and art so we barely ever had time to spend together.we went out for 2 weeks and then i decided to brake up with him because 1:we never even kissed and we barely hugged and i need that to realy feel a conection with a guy.2:we saw each other like 4 times in those 2 weeks.after we broke up he started acting more like a bf then he did when we were dating and we actually became a lot closer and i realized that i realy like him a lot.we started talking about going out again and he started flirting with me and holding my hand and cudling with me when we watch movies and evry thing seemed fine.it seemed like we were going to get back together then out of the blue he told me that he doesnt think its a good idea to go out again because i cant spend enough time with him.after he told me that i got realy upset because i cant do anything about it. theres only 24 hours in a day i can only do so much.the day after he told me that he started acting like he didnt like me any more so i asked him if we could talk tomorow and try and figure things out and he said yes but now i dont know what to do.any advice would be good i really want things to work out between him and i.thanks for taking the time to read xo.
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reader, fi_the_tree  +, writes (31 October 2010):
 You need to be asking the right questions. Weigh up the pros and cons of being together, and just being friends. If the cons outweigh the pros, then that particular option isn't for you.
I'm pleased that you guys are still so focused on your school work, so may people who get a partner let their school work suffer for it. If you don't already, maybe you could study together (as friends) then you can still spend time with each other, and you also have someone to help you if you're not sure of anything and vice versa.
When you guys do get round to talking, just try and be as honest as you can. If it turns out that there is no way you can be together, then at least it wasn't in vain, and you can move on from it and remain friends.
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