What do I say to him at his sentencing?

A female age 36-40, *ichone143 writes:

My soon to be ex-husband and I were together for six years. After three months he started being physically and emotionally abusive, I stayed, married him, and had his child. Stayed for another year and a half after our daughter was born. The abuse kept getting worse and worse, until I left. Then he would stalk me and when he was violent during the exchange of our daughter, he did not care who knew anymore, the bruises were visible to everybody, no make up or clothes would hide them. The last time we exchanged our daughter in March he tried to kill me and the police were called. He was arrested and has his trial date set this month. It is a very likely chance that he will be found guilty and I have the right to speak to him at his sentencing. I really want to do this but I have no idea what to say...any suggestions would be greatful as I need to make it clear to him that I gave him everything thinking that if he loved me enough he wouldn't hurt me, but I now know that it did not have anything to do with love, nobody can love him enough, all he needs is control. I want him to know what he put me through, and more than that what he put our toddler through...

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