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writes:earlier today i rang my boyfriend and he told me he dosent want to carry on seeing me for the moment i begged him and pleeded him not to end it he said he would ring me back later on today i dont want things to end between us because i love him so much and wouldnt no what to do without him when he rings me what do i say or do to convince him to stay with me? Reply to this Question
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reader, I care  +, writes (6 April 2008):
 you shouldn't have to beg some one to be with you they should want to on their own. Your a person who deserves more than that. If it's ment to be as they say let him go if it's ment to be he'll be back but in the mean time focus on you not the heart ache your feeling ocupy your time with other things and other people it will help you to fill the void your begining to feel become your own individual you don't need anyone to make you feel whole.Maybe start a new hobby or take a new class or join a fun group or something.
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reader, Cindy303  +, writes (6 April 2008):
 There is nothing you can say or do to convince a guy to stay with you. First rule of thumb.....NEVER beg a guy to call you,talk to you, stay with you, etc. NEVER! That is something you will learn as you grow older. Your boyfriend wants to break it off with you, hold your head high, as hard as it might be. Try to think positive and know that there are lots of other ones out there just waiting for a chance to take you to a movie or be your boyfriend. Your so young, this guy is just one of what will be many. Let him go, its his loss, not yours. Dont hunt him down and beg him, dont talk nasty about him, just move on and show everyone who came out on top, YOU! Best Wishes, Cindy
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 April 2008): You can't 'convince' someone to saty with you, if they don't want that. Why are you pleading and begging, in the first place? Stop doing that. You need some advice-badly. By pleading with a guy to stay, you give up all bargaining power in this relationship because you are behaving so inappropriately emotionally dependent on him...to make 'you' feel special and wanted. That is your job to feel to make you 'feel special'...not his.
You are young, still, and this guy, as much as you like him right now, will not be the only one. Firstly, ever never beg for a guy to remain with you...to give you something that he's just not prepared to do. You need courage and you really need to get some dignity and pride, hun. And I mean that in the most caring way. There is a reason "why" he wants this break up...maybe you know what it is..maybe not. But he is well within his right to do this if he feels you and he just are working anymore. You need to accept and respect that, in the most bravest way you can muster, It will hurt like hell. That is the reality. You don't want to face the pain of losing him in order for you, to grow and learn to be creative from this, possibly date others...you want this relationship to continue. That is unreality.
But you can't do anything to make him remain with you. If he's going to go, he's going to do this. Realize that your bf may decide to feel empathy and pity for your hurt and then prolong this relationship he doesn't want, but he will eventually leave this relationship, anyways. Because a realtionship based on pity for the other, is not healthy and never lasts. Get out there and recover from this...work on you dependant emotions by building a solid, healthy self-love with yourself. And someday when you heal..go find a guy who respects and honors you. There are plenty of awesome, decent guys out there and you deserve one of them.. Good luck and take care of yourself, hun.
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