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writes:ive known this girl for about a couple months now and we just started hanging out outside of school, i really like her and she knows it, but her friend told me she just wants to be friends, but when i hang out with her she flirts and talks like she does like me, im not the most attractive person out there, but my confidence is up..but i am not sure what to do, so what do i have to do to get her to be in my arms? ive herd all the be yourself answers and such but when i do, i feel like its not enough.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 June 2008): Maddog is actually right. Its horrible but once you're in the position you're in because this girl KNOWS you like her. Sometimes that's all girls want. Your goal isn't to get her to like you as much as it is to get her INTERESTED in you. In this case show her less attention. Be nice to her but try not to act interested. Act somewhat distant, like you don't care what she does. Don't be mean though.
Girls will say this is a bad idea because it's not what a woman wants. But you're trying to get her interested, not be her best friend.
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reader, Maddog25  +, writes (24 June 2008):
okay man here we go. it sounds like you and this girl is still in high school. think about this though. women need to feel secure and want their confidence up. she obviously knows that you feel for her. screw the "be yourself" crap. play her game now...... give her less attention but dont totally ignore her. let her know that shes not something to sweat over. even though you are but its all good bro! i been there. after a while "your not around as you used to"... you will find that she may start to like you. she wants to be chased by someone and i guess it happends to be you. how would you feel if you had girls on you? you still want to be liked right? so that means you still want them around so then THAT MEANS you will lead them on by flirting with them. maybe after a while she notices less attention by you she may come after you. its stupid but that happends. you always want what you cant have. let me know how it goes brother
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reader, Brookesmommy1101 +, writes (24 June 2008):
I have been in the situation where a guy likes me but I don't feel anything more than friendly towards him. Being friendly towards someone of the opposite sex is often mistaken as flirting. If she hasn't told you that she likes you then let it go. Have you told her that you like her? If you haven't maybe she's just scared to let you know. Tell her, if she says she wants to be friends, let it go and be her friend. Everyone comes into someones life for a reason, maybe you will meet someone through her.
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