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female
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30-35,
anonymous
writes:Hi, ive been goin out with my boyfriend for almost 3 months now. I know it's not long compared to other relationships, but its the longest relationship ive been in. Im good friends with some of his friends, so i would be afraid if i dumped him i wud lose their friendships. When im with him we have a great time together, but we only see each other once or maybe twice a week which is sad, its the only time i get to see him cus im still in school. I actually really don't want to leave him, i do think i love him but then again i don't think i have feelings for him anymore. I have talked to him about this and I upset him and he said he didn't want to talk about it anymore. I cant help feeling this way though. I hate it. I have asked advice from a close friend but even she doesn't know what to do. Can someone give me some advice asap? Thx Reply to this Question
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (22 November 2010):
 You need to decide on what you want and what is good for you. You can't be inbetween "I love him" and "I dont have feelings for him". Figure out your feelings. It's not both, it can't be, because love is a strong feeling, and if you are this unsure about your feelings for him I'd say you do not actually love him. You just like him. And perhaps you have fallen out of love?
You got to figure out your feelings towards him, and not factor in his friends, or how often you meet, or anything else. Just figure out your feelings first, and then figure out what you want from a relationship and if he provides you with that.
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