What do I do now or have I done all I can already?

A female age 41-50, *onelylonelysoul writes:

well I recently had a guy I care deeply about come back in to my life december 5th of 2011. I haven't seen him since august of 2011, I mean we were together in august for about a month then he said he had to go out of town and when he came back he said he got locked up and that's why he wasn't able to come back until now. He said he was sorry and that he promise to never leave me again. I believed him and I love him so I took him back last month. It was nice --I haven't slept with him, just layed in his arms some nights.we planned to spend xmas together. I bought and wrapped already a watch, hat and chain for him. he said he wanted to make me happy and that there is no one like me and that he came back realizing im the one person who love him and he missed me so much. he kissed me, held my hand said he will never leave. I felt like my dream had came true! my friend and my love was back! I had questions because if he was locked up all this time why does his facebook have status updates,photos and etc for the times he claimed to be locked up? then I saw him write( I love you too) to a female who had posted (i love you )to him..I was so hurt! because that was in november! how was he with her on his birthday in november? if he was locked up? plus he love her? what is that if we were together in august? he never told me he love me, he said he will tell me how he feel about me on xmas because he want it to be a special day! ofcourse I'm thinking it must mean he telling me he love me? his reason for all the facebook stuff was that it was his ex, the one he claims to hate! the one he thought was pregnant with his child and that was his only reason in saying he love her too! but then when he found out it wasnt his baby he said ofcourse I do not love her, I hate her for what she did far as lying and cheating. but yet this ex is on his friends list, he claim he cant stop her from texting and calling him and he claim he want to be with me and that he came back for me. I told him fine prove it! say u in a relationship on your status so people will know you in a relationship then she will stop.he said no problem, then when he left that night i requested to be his friend on facebook waiting for him to accept and change the status..guess what 3days passed he still aint accept it!! I aint seen him or heard from him. so me being upset I send him a msg on facebook saying its fine dnt accept me becuz u clearly got yout mind messed up and that I dnt understand why he tell me he feel so much for me and have me thinking he came for me and boosting me up to think on xmas imma hear he love me when he couldnt evn prove one thing? pushing a button to accept me as a friend? that was on december 18th. I figured why wait for xmas for him to say he love me when in reality he couldnt even do that one thing he said he would by accepting my request and getting this in the open so I could see this girl is the past?? I did not want a fake I love you. I dnt know what to think. so he never messaged me back, did not say a word. xmas eve, xmas I spent alone!! then just a hour ago on new years day I get a text from an unknown number that says happy new year.....I text back and said I do not know who this is? then I get another text that says ( it's the person you told to never talk to you again). I knew it was him! I was in shock thinking ok he thinking of me, I text back and say (well I never told anyone not to talk to me again! I asked the man i love to get at me when he truly ready to be with me! and not to blame me for his choices in not showing me or saying what was real! and that he know I love him but I can't force him to be who I deserve. happy new year chris!).....he then text back and said happy new year with my name, acknowledging that he was infact chris that I stated.. I didnt respond further. ten minutes later he text again and said ( this my mew phone,text or call anytime) my heart fell! I didnt know what to text..so I text that ( I can't keep putting my heart thru this and that if he never truly come to me in a true way then I want him to know I will always love him and that I wish him nothing but happiness, and said later chris),,,now my heart just lost again and I hate it becuz what was his purpose? was I wrong to excpect he'd say something? not even a reason for what happened? no explanation? and why is it he never saw my friend request for 3days but yet he saw the message I left him telling him to forget it he dnt have to accept it? what do I do now? he is younger than me by a few years but that's no excuse is it? can't be? yes he said text or call anytime but how could that be all he said? we were just in a relationship I thought? was I wrong to send that message? what is he doing to me or am I just nothing to him? and what was he going to tell me on xmas? becuz if he loved me wouldn't he have still said it even now to fix the situation and show he did mean all he said? is this games? im so sorry im rambling but why did he even text just to get my heart in knots? I love him? or do I just leave it becuz he doesn't seem to even truly make that move to show me he love me too? im not crazy or needy I just .love him and if i should just turn away please somebody somebody tell me what im not allowing myself to accept? thank you all

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