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writes:I know this may sound petty, but my boyfriend just held a dripping spoonful of gravy out to me and dripped it on the new sheepskin slippers I just got for Christmas a week ago. I was upset, and his only response was a deadpan "Sorry, shit happens." That made me livid-- he's poor and doesn't work and has like Wal-Mart brand everything, while I work hard to get nice things and take very good care of them. After that response, I was livid at him (he's done other things like that in the past-- he even dropped my new laptop, which thankfully didn't break). He's telling me I shouldn't wear my shoes anywhere they could possibly get ruined (even though I personally always take care to ensure they don't) and I'm furious that he shows such little respect for my possessions. Do I have a right to be mad here?
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 January 2012): Yes you have a right to be upset at him disrespecting your belongings.Other than that your attitude at him being poor and buying everything from Wal-mart as if that is something that is to ashamed of is quite frankly rude! It doesn't matter how much something cost or where it came from, and he may be resenting that your looking down your nose, because you have "nicer" things. I think you both need to learn some respect for each other, him for your belongings and you for respecting that just because he doesn't have what you have or the money you have to spend on buying more expensive things, doesn't mean you should be looking down your nose at him.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 January 2012): A "boyfriend" who shows no respect for your property, to the extreme of deliberately and maliciously ruining a Christmas gift in response to your stated wishes, has made it very clear he has no respect for you. And that's putting it mildly.
He's also made it clear he's a freeloader (no job) and a controller (telling you what you should/n't do).
He is who he is, and he will never change.
Your call.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 January 2012): How will you handle young children? I would think that would be something that has crossed your boyfriend's mind when he thinks of the future. As much as he has his flaws, like spilling things or dropping things, guys ultimately look for an easy going partner they can make a life with...someone who isn't going to flip out and take personally the small things.
All I'm saying is you are opening up the doors for him to view you with just as much critism.
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reader, Starlights  +, writes (1 January 2012):
 Yes you have a right to be a little peeved... your boyfriend is acting irresponsibily.
You have worked hard to gain your "things" and he is doing little but ruin them.
However, is he clumsy by nature? clumsy people are those who sometimes get nervous around people and drop things everywhere. If he is and you seriously love him, explain that he's not allowed to touch your items anymore because of what he's been doing. That should teach him to respect your belongings too and hopefully make him be more cautious around your stuff.
Hope this helps!
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