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writes:what should i do if someone whom i love dearly, just left me with out even saying goodbye, i just do not know where he is, no calls, no messages, nothing. i was left all alone and seems he doesnt care anymore and it hurts me that much. i love him so much, and i cant bare it anymore.what hurts even more is that, he promised to love me even more, and he will not to left me in times of troubles, why all of a sudden when things are in place he just left without any explanation.how should i handle problems like this? Reply to this Question
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reader, Samutsen  +, writes (4 December 2007):
 he might simply be a sweet liar and having had a dream with you which he also must have have wanted to believe, he left he went back to his real world.
May be he is married, may he has kids, may be he has business. But i do not think he will come back.
I would believe he was under compulsion.
So I am sorry but it is better to forget about him. I know it is not easy and I feel for you but sometimes you meet these kind of people and they are good at making you believe you and (themselves) these sweet lies. I guess you have got to realize first the person you love was not his real self. In reality he was someone different. Apparently he did not abuse you or damaged you in any substantial way. I am sure you can cope with this situation.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 December 2007): You say things are in place,but obviously not for him. Have you took notice of him? shown interest? Its all to easy to believe how you feel is what your relationship revolves around.
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reader, LULU'S Advice  +, writes (4 December 2007):
 Dear anonymous,I feel for you so deeply.Three years ago my husand of sixteen years did the same to me,only he left with my friend.He is in the air force and at the time was in cyprus and she was with him.You must be beside yourself at the moment and I don't think anyone will be able to console you. You need answers that only he has. All I can advise is that you hold yourself together,as hard as it may seem.Does he have any family or friends that you can contact,maybe they can shed some light. I know that at the moment you won't know what to do next or where to turn. Please please don't do anything silly,it's hard to think rationally at the moment but things will become easier with time. Perhaps you'll get the answers you need to be able to move on with your life but until then,please stay strong. You are in my thoughts and prayers. xx
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reader, aunt.shazza +, writes (4 December 2007):
 maybe he needs time alone, he might just need to think. To me it sounds like alot of this is you, that everything revolved around you. He promised this and that..so on.What did you give, and if you did give it your all then love you need something better it may seem like a big obsticle to cross ,we all long for someone to love us, but things can only get better. Try focus on something else, dont blame yourself and try to keep busy, take up hobbies just try to take your mind off it and one day you will get the answers your looking for.
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