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writes:I have a bit of a dilemma. I am in love with two guys. Guy number 1 I went out with once for a year but we broke up because he cheated on me. After a couple of months he came back to me and kept apologizing. We got back together but we broke up after a week because it felt awkward. Guy number one is my best friend and we have grown so close. I've always had a feeling that he was the right one and I always knew I was most likely going to get married to him. Guy number 2 I started going out with a little over two months ago. We have been going great and he admitted he has never had this kind of feeling with another person. I don't exactly know if he is just saying that. Two weeks ago guy number 1 came back and admitted he is still in love with me and I feel the same with him. He wants to marry me and I know there is a lot between us other than the physical part. Yet I still have great feelings with the guy number two and I feel I haven't given him a chance yet. But guy number 1 doesn't want to wait any longer because he broke up with his gf to be with me. And he knows I am in a relationship but wants me to break up with my boyfriend to be with him. What do I do and Who do I choose?
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 January 2009): I think that guy number 1 just wants you because your omething that he can't have. Think clearly about WHY you broke up in the first place... there was something you said 'I don't know whether he really means that?' I sense a bit of dis-trust here. Maybe because you don't trust him because of what your ex put you through. I would say, give guy number 2 a chance. You are still so young... if your age is correct (18-21) Anything can happen, say tomrrow, or the next day!
I regret choosing my ex over someone else. Love is blind. Think how much happier and secure you could be with your new guy and start a'fresh with him! Everything happens for a reason. Maybe this is a test on your new relationship, if you get through this and can 4get number 1 then you love number 2!
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 January 2009): Wow. This is a very hard decision and I mean honestly, no one can answer that for you...but I'm sure you don't want to hear that haha. You honestly have to do what feels right. Most people who read what you said would tell you to go with guy number two because he seems like the smartest choice. But I'm thinking more the first guy..only because it sounds like you truly love him, and you can't deny what you really feel. If you go with he second guy, you may always regret that decision. but then again..it may be the other way around. Only you can really know that. The one thing you have to be careful with is that this first guy sounds like he could be a player. he obviously hurt you once before and he broke up with his girlfriend and it automatically trying to get with you..which kinda shows a lot about his personality. It also seems pretty drastic to go from not being together to getting married right away...which you are obviously not ready for with him if you still have feelings for someone else too. I'm not saying don't go for this first guy, because even if it doesn't make as much "sense," you've got to go with the one you really want. But just be careful! and tell him how you're feeling and that it seems a little sudden to rush into marriage, even you both truly love each other and are meant to be. I hope this helped, but only you can truly know! and sorry this was such a long response haha i just started goinggg.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 January 2009): On a piece of paper write down your likes and dislikes of each, and then after reviewing that you should find your answer.
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