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female
age
30-35,
anonymous
writes:I just sent my boyfriend to jail tonight....because he hit me. Backhanded me in specific...I have been with him for 3 years in march of this year...hes been verbally abusive to me for as long as i can remember. yes the relationship has had its good moments but tonight after he hit me...i just couldnt take it any more... ps3 you want there to be a reason for me to be a dick well there it is" then he went to lay down in the bedroom. he then yelled from the bedroom "dont forget about the fucking laundry" so i grabbed my quarters and went to check on the laundry and i needed the quarter so i came back into the room and asked him where the quarter was and he said i dont know so i said oh well them im just going to get a dollar and go get some more and i preceded to pick up his pants and reach in the pocket for the dollar right at that moment he jumped off of the bed he was laying on and he grabbed the pants out of my hands he said dont ever touch my shit and in that same moment he was yelling that at me he backhanded me....i know what he did was wrong thats why i called the cops...and turn toward me saying "i put a lock on the fucking ps3 you want there to be a reason for me to be a dick well there it is" then he went to lay down in the bedroom. he then yelled from the bedroom "dont forget about the fucking laundry" so i grabbed my quarters and went to check on the laundry and i needed the quarter so i came back into the room and asked him where the quarter was and he said i dont know so i said oh well them im just going to get a dollar and go get some more and i preceded to pick up his pants and reach in the pocket for the dollar right at that moment he jumped off of the bed he was laying on and he grabbed the pants out of my hands he said dont ever touch my shit and in that same moment he was yelling that at me he backhanded me....i know what he did was wrong thats why i called the cops...i just need some advice....what do i do after i leave him...i know ihave to move out of our apartment.....but mentally i have no clue...i dont know what to do... Reply to this Question
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (6 February 2011):
I'm so glad you had the courage to have him arrested. That takes nerve, and you've shown yourself as a strong person. A good thing, because now you need to be strong for your life. Now you need to focus on yourself. Entirely. Forget men for the moment. The best thing you can do after what you've been through is to see a counsellor. You can talk about what's happened, understand the situation and most important start a recovery. As a woman who has been abused, you need to make sure you understand everything because you will be at a high risk of choosing another abuser in the future.
Start with the counselling, and go from there. And good luck.
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