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writes:im 15 years old i really like this guy but he is 3 years younger than me, but i really like him. in school people tell me stuff for liking a guy so young but he is mature and playful at the same time. i need advice, what should i do im going crazy over this? Reply to this Question
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reader, HopelessRomantic2010 +, writes (14 December 2008):
Hii...
I am in the same situation. I recently turned seventeen, and my boyfriend of almost seven weeks is going to be fourteen in March (the age gap is approximately three years, four months, and three days...if that matters at all). We knew each other for about a month before my cousin, who is the same age as him, told me that he had a crush on me. I had already kind of figured this out from the way he behaved around me, and I had been struggling to hide my own crushing feelings for him. I sent word back through her that I liked him, too, and at a football game about a month after that, he asked me for my number. I willingly gave it to him, and we started texting and calling. Then, he started talking about establishing a relationship, and that was something that I was really, really doubtful about. I was afraid of what people would say and all that other negative stuff that there is to worry about in a situation like that. But finally, I was just like, "You know what? He likes me, I like him, and we make each other happy. What else matters?" sure, my friends and family members were kind of shocked, but for the most part, they took it well. His friends, of course, think it's pretty cool; as do pretty much all of his male family members. Now, it's not something that people really gawk at. They're used to us, and they accept us. And until someone mentions it, I forget that there's an age difference. He is very mature and is just the best boyfriend that anybody could ever ask for.
I can't lie and say it's all bliss and rainbows and unicorns, however. There are people who DON'T approve of us; people who think our relationship is weird. I have actually had someone call me a child molestor...which I am not, because it's not like I'm of legal age, and it's not like I'm having sex with him. You might encounter that as well...depending on what kind of people you have to put up with in your school (mine has quite a few jerks running around...lol). But I'm going to tell you like my friends told me: the people that make fun are just jealous. Really, the people I get the most lip from are the ones who aren't in a relationship themselves. I've got something that they don't have--a great relationship and a person who loves me unceasingly and unconditionally--and it kills them. Therefore, they feel they have to make fun. It's not always easy to deal with, but all you really have to do is tune them out. Focus on the positive things--such as your feelings for this guy and his feelings for you. Don't let anyone get in the way of that. People are always going to talk about you. Soo, you might as well give them something to talk about!!!
The bottom line: Age is just a number, and love doesn't care how old you are.
Best of luck to you!
God bless,
Sarah
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reader, metalinvasion92 +, writes (9 December 2008):
 Hey I'm 16 and my girlfriend is 13............i know exactly how you feel about the whole age thing but ya know what if you like him that much then go for it............age shoudlnt stop you from being with someone you like...........GO FOR IT
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reader, deb777 +, writes (8 December 2008):
 Don't worry about the age difference. If he likes you alot too.Then both of you are very happy. Mature does count. Good luck
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reader, thegardenstate +, writes (8 December 2008):
If youre only 15, and the boy you like is 12, that's kinda weird. You're in high school and he's not, you should wait until he's in high school, I bet he's the kinda guy that is like I love you baby you're beautiful, forever and always, blahblahblah. Although it is comforting, it's not real. Find a real, high school boy.
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