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writes:I have this problem...the thing is I really care about my boyfriend...but he's can be a little possesive...He doesn't like me being around my friends because he says I act different around them, basically I don't smother him with affection when they're around. Is that a crime? And he reads my text messages and completely goes off at someone if he doesn't like what they're saying. And forget about having guy friends! He gets extremely jealous. He's cheated on me once before (while intoxicated) but he's the one getting on my case about cheating. He acts like he's bi-polar. Constantly being hot and cold with me. We fight a lot but they're usually only stupid little fights that cool over within a day.I can't imagine being without him.But I don't know how much more i can take...Should I end it before the relationship ends up lasting the rest of my life?help?
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reader, weary-zone  +, writes (14 July 2008):
 oki i really didn't get you do you want to keep him ? so i can help you with it i really thought he was a pain in the ass but look once i had a boyfriend who counts on me with everything and i really knew he would be lost without me because helped him with every single problem o.k but with the time i found out that i'm tired and i have a lot of problems that i have to deal with (just for the recored it was his problems) i got sick of someone have a lot of problems with his mum just like yours and with his big brother but i broke up because i really think life is short we have to find our happiness so when i broke up i thought i'll miss him and i really felt guilty because i left him but after a while i got into relationship and i thank god i broke up with him because i found someone better and i'm happy now i'm with my boyfriend for more than year and half -smiles-
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 July 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHe really is a sweetheart, he cried after he cheated.
He told me right after it happened as well.
In reality he only felt up a girl's chest.
He's almost the perfect boyfriend for me, but he's just so insecure.
He had a rough relationship with his mother and he's been used by a lot of girls.
But he can be one of the sweetest boys you'll ever meet when he feels comfortable.
I think what I really need is a way to make him feel secure abut himself.
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reader, weary-zone +, writes (14 July 2008):
well the most important thing in relationship is trust , faithful , and honest .
and when he cheated on you it means he doesn't love you deeply plus [cheating = unfaithful + lier ] so that means he broke two of the most important things in a relationship . and about that you can't live without him you must think right because its really wrong i guess you have great friends and a boyfriend comes and goes i don't really wannabe mean or saying it an a mean way but i'm just say the truth and be realistic i mean you know that deep inside you you can live without him right and there is a rule that i always put : 1- family 2- friends 3- then comes a boyfriend so don't thinks you can't live without him sure you can .. flip your hair girl and end it if you're not happy -flips her hair- =p
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reader, Collaroy  +, writes (14 July 2008):
 Hi,
You're 16-17?? good grief, dump him! Move on . you'll find someone else special( though he is nothing special believe me) real soon. Life is way too short to be hanging around with possessive controlling arseholes mate.
And that is what he is, well at least one in training. He will only get worse with age, if he is like this now imagine what he will be like in 5-10 years time!
Escape my dear. Get out, and let him try and control some other poor girl.
good luck.
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reader, jlc1867 +, writes (14 July 2008):
i know exactly where you are coming from. ive had a past of guys who are way over protective & i can not stand that at all. i think that you should talk to him about it first, tell him that if he really likes you, you guys need to have trust in your relationship. tell him that you want to be able to hang out& have time with your friends. i wouldn't end your relationship right away though, bc you might look back and actually miss him. if he takes it in a bad way he is not worth your time, but the best thing is to talk it through, he should understand.
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