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male
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30-35,
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writes:Hey. I think I'm a bit psychologically unstable. I recently started to have a big crush on this one girl, but for some reason this is different. When I'm not around her, I think about her all the time. I can't concentrate on homework, and whenever the thought that she might not actually like me, etc. crosses my mind, I start freaking out. I'm having brief fits of 'she doesn't like me' in which I punch walls or something. I know I'm only 14, and it shouldn't be like this. Sure, I should like her, I should pursue her, but I should have other things in my life too. I don't need to be told that I need help- that's why I'm asking here. I'm also looking for professional help, so don't worry. In the mean time though... what should I do??? Thanks...!
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 February 2009): Well dont worry about it. Trust me im your age and ive been through the same thing. Its normal. Just sit down and talk to her. Then ask her out on a date.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 February 2009): Crushes happen at any age. I'm 37 and I have a bad crush on a woman at work at the moment (just don't tell my partner and our two children!). You will have crushes for the rest of your life. If you indulge them then this becomes an affair. If she does not feel the same for you then the key is to keep yourself busy. Fill your time with other pursuits, possibly spend more time in the company of other girls so that you can put this girl in context. Patience is a virtue. This girl will not disappear from your life overnight so be calculating in your approach. If she rejects you then bow out gracefully - continuing the pursuit will only make matters worse. Good luck!
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reader, ArmyMedic  +, writes (3 February 2009):
 I remember doing the same kind of thing at your age, and so did my mates it's normal, and will settle with time. I forgot how much I hated my teenage years till I came back on this site. Don't worry things get batter and you will look back at this and cringe. Good luck
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 February 2009): It's COMPLETELY normal to have these kinds of crushes, especially around your age.
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