A
female
age
30-35,
*pendy
writes:What should I do about my ex boyfriend? please he's really hurt me:(?I was with him for 5months..everything was great then after 4months he started been weird and asked to go on a break and I said ok. He begged for me back and he asked for another break again we got back and he started been weird again so I told him to take some time out, I waited for 3days and I asked him what was up he didn't wanna say it so I had to force it out of him and he said doesn't know if he loves me or not, he miss the single life and wants to be alone. He doesn't want a relationship.i found out today that hes been seeing a girl behind my back since Janurary, i spoke to the girl and she told me everything.he called me today to see how i was doing and i sounded great and really happy when he called and i asked if hes got someone and he said hes not looking for anyone at the moment. he wants to be single for a while.. and he swore on his dead dads grave he didnt cheat on me LIAR!! i told him, i will bring everything he got for me on wednesday and he asked if i wanted to go see a movie, i told him no!!the other girl wants us to meet up and go see him together. but i kinda wanna go see him on my own and let him know i know all about him and her and just walk away.what do you think? please help? am so shock i cant even bring myself to cry, i just laugh it off:(thanks..xx
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reader, TEM  +, writes (14 March 2011):
 I think your ex really does want to be single, in that he does not want to have an exclusive relationship with anyone. That is what single people do. They date as many people as they want and do not make a commitment to anyone.
It appears to me that he wants to date both of you. Since he told you he wants to be single, he probably feels that he is doing nothing wrong. When you do not commit to anyone you are not cheating, or seeing someone behind their back, if you see others.
He probably doesn't want to talk to you about the other women and vice versa. I would say that would be in poor form anyway. You should never talk to a date about the other people you date.
The problem here is that your relationship has gone backwards. It started out exclusive, and then he decided he didn't want it to be that way anymore. It is hard to take a step backwards in relationships. People generally get hurt. If you had known this about him upfront, I don't think you would be so upset.
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female
reader, anonymous, writes (14 March 2011): honey,
see him on your own, tell him that you know and walk away from him, forever.
but if you feel scared, go with the girl..
but honestly, go by yourself.
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