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female
age
30-35,
*eather016
writes:This guy I was dating for some time, he fooled me into giving up my first kiss, my first almost everything. I know what we felt. We really felt something. He told me he loved me that's why I gave up my first kiss but later he told me, he didnt love me yet! But then, later, I'm not trying to sound like a racist, but a foreigner girl from the Mainland China appeared and he started liking her. We were already acting like a couple and everybody knew it. He made me believe that we were having a special relationship and that the girl was just a best friend. Even when we were having a special relationship, he wouldnt stop texting girls. So, I made my choice that I cant tolerate the jealousy and asked him to make it official. He suddenly said he had to choose between two girls who are me and that girl. I was like I thought you said I was the only one! He wanted that girl, in the end. So I decided we should never meet anymore.Now, I feel humiliated when he keeps writing in his facebook page how much he misses her and generally public display of affection on facebook. Worse is that, he's been telling everyone how he's never loved/liked me and some people (who don't know the whole story) have been saying stuff like, "good for you. do what you like and not what others force you to" and they were basically laughing me off. I feel ridiculed. They dont know what we had been through but they have been indicating as though i forced him to love me. It's humiliating enough when he parades in the college with his foreigner girlfriend. My friends keep telling me I have to be strong because he's not good enough for me, anyway. I know that but I cant help feeling humiliated every time he walks around with that girl. He's been telling everyone I have to accept the fact. The truth is, I've never loved him and I've been depressing because of the humiliation and disbelief of how one could be so cruel. The foreigner girl knew I gave up my first almost-everything but yet she still doesnt care. I told her I wanted to be her friend and I kept smiling at her but she ignored me and made ugly faces to me.I know, people would be saying, "come on, girl. you're just 19. there's so much more out there" but have you faced the humiliation of your ex spreading untruthful rumours about you and went straight parading with someone else? Please help. I'm at end of wits now.
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reader, Entirely Unique  +, writes (21 March 2010):
 I believe in the saying, the people that mind don't matter and the people that matter don't mind, true friends and people that matter or the only people that should matter in your life are those that know the truth and don't go around believing the lies told about you, the rest aren't worth even worrying yourself about.
Stop trying so hard to be liked by someone that really you shouldn't want to be friends with anyway and as for him I don't see why hes still on your friends list for you to see this stuff hes putting about you on his status.
Wipe him out, be polite if the needs must but move on, the more you show something to bother you the more people will try to continue it.
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