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writes:My ex and I broke up in December. I moved about 6 hours away. I returned about 2 months ago and asked her if we could work it out and she said she was happy being single. I left her alone about it. We have been hanging out a lot lately. We go to the movies and out to dinner and lunch. When we are in the movies she holds my hand and rubs my arms and such. When we are at her place she lays on my chest and I lay on her. We went to look at puppies and she said that she needed to nurture something as she wasn't going to be a mother anytime soon because "someone" (me) wasn't acting right. She remains supportive and always holds my hand everywhere we go. I don't want to ask her to get back with me again because I'm afraid of that rejection. What does she expect me to and better yet what should I do?
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 August 2006): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionWell I sent her an e-mail and let her know how I felt about the whole thing. Its all or nothing. This thing confuses the hell out of me and its unfair as I am a human being and I deserve happiness. I don't think that was harsh but just forward. If its over than we should be apart to find other people not hold on to what we had. Thats childish.
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reader, xxxsoulsistaxxx  +, writes (2 August 2006):
 It seems like this girl can't decide what she wants. She seems to want to be with you but something is holding her back. Give her some time, see if she comes around. Maybe she will make the first move and ask you to be her boyfriend again if things go well.
But be careful. Don't let her use you when you're around until she finds something better. If she 'enjoys being single' what parts of it does she enjoy? Does she see other people?
I really don't know what's going through her mind at the moment but I think you need to give her some space to decide that for herself. If she doesn't want what you want, she's wasting your time. Why not speak to her? Ask her what she wants and, if it's not a relationship, tell her it's all or nothing. You don't want to hang around wondering anymore, you want answers and you want to know whether she wants you back. Without this information, I really don't think you can move on.
Good luck
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reader, Thachorie +, writes (2 August 2006):
 She expects a romantic gesture and you to fall at her feet, girls want that they need to feel loved in order for them to do anything about it.
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