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female
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30-35,
anonymous
writes:I wondered if you could help me clear my head slightly. I got a text afew days ago that had a certain sentence on the bottom that confused the hell out of me.I'll try and give you a basic story without boring you. basically I had been friends with this guy for about 5 years, things have always ben up and down as hes always been weird with me. he doesnt have much confidence or experience wirh girls.We got together. He ended it on the basis he didn't think it was what he wanted, it didn't end well and there was another girl who liked him that he said he will give it a go with. Bare in mind there quite an age gap between them, and she lived and hr and a half drive away. With him working alot he can't see her that much.Anyway as i say things didn't end well. he just told me straight i wasn't the one he wanted and at the time he didnt realise how much he hurt me. I sent him a sarcastic text just over a month later to which he replied how he knows i hate him and hes done wrong etc. I wont go into them as I could be here all day but that was the general concept. Basically saying he knows that we can't be friends after how hes hurt me but doesn't want us to fall out. I told him i cant just forgive and forget but i cannot carry on this way as i miss him and its recking me. Anyway afew texts later i recieved one basically along the same lines as the others but this on said at the bottom. "its entirely my(his) fault, and theres nothing we can do I still think about you but i don't see how we can put this right"What did he mean he still thinks about me? I know i should have asked him but it came as a shock and i didn't wanna say something on the spare of the moment and regret it. In one sense i think it means exactlly what it says, and if so that leads me to think what the hell is going on? Another thinks does he mean he just still cares about me? But even so its a strange thing to say to someone that you know still loves you.I dont know exactlly is hes with this girl seeriously as i say, big age gap, and also quite abit of travelling, and he really doesnt seem the type to give up his own life to travel. So i don't know if they're serious or not. people say they can't see it but i cannot judge based on assumptions.Your views would be very greatful as i wonder if im the only one that finds this weird. thanks so much for your time to read this.
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (13 February 2012):
 Time to move on Dear, that's what everyone told you the last time you posted this. He most likely feels bad for hurting your feelings but he's definitely does not want to pursue a relationship with you. Pull yourself up by your bootstraps and get on with your life.
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