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writes:Hi, I am going to try to make this short as much as I canI’ve known this 22 year-old girl since she was 16. We’ve always been good friends and I have always had a small crush on her. 3 years ago she moved a few states away with her family, we might go a couple or few months not talk but we have always stayed in touch one way or the other, text or phone calls. Me liking her is no secret, she knows about it the whole time b/c I told her.Recently she came visit me, we hung out, enjoyed each other’s company, slept together, kisses, hugs, no we didn’t have sex. The following six week we talked a lot, even entertained the idea of long distance relationship and perhaps someday she will move back to the area after school is over or transfer. She was only seeing someone, nothing serious at all.Two Saturdays ago in the morning, she would never call at that hour because she’s supposed to be at work, but she did. I was half asleep so I didn’t pick up, she didn’t leave a message.3 hours later, she called again, this time I didn’t pick up on purpose thinking “Let her miss / chase me for a day,” no voice mail again. An hour went by I texted her to say hi. She replied “So, my heart has never been this hurt before, my whole world at the moment, will explain later.” I told her call me right away after work. Never called then she texted that night “I’m not ready to talk, give me a couple of days.” I told her whatever she needs, I am here.3 days later she called and asked me about my view on faith because she’s not happy and want to get a new perspective and seek happiness. She still wouldn’t tell me what happened because she wasn’t ready and she was with someone and don’t want to talk about it. We hung up. Few more days went by, I called last night and left her a message telling her, see how’s she was doing and give me a call when she gets a chance. I still haven’t heard anything.I want to ask the ladies here this: What could it be that went wrong so bad for her not to tell me? I am sure it can’t be me did something wrong, otherwise we wouldn’t stayed in touch after the visit, and she wouldn’t have called twice that morning. She obviously wanted to talk to me that day but not anymore, now I kind of regret I didn’t pick up that day. Any ideas what it could be?The other question is, should I not even bother contacting her and just let her tell me when she’s ready? I really care about her and it’s killing me not knowing what happened to her for one, and two, why keep me in the dark, she doesn’t trust me? I don’t want to keep forcing her and that might back fire. Suggestions? Thanks
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reader, lsickle +, writes (20 July 2010):
my man im in the same boat. With my wife. With her being in a relationship were she lives and being in an emotional relationship with you could be the very thing thats she is torn about. Maybe she is pondering the thought of who to choose. Guilt im sure is playing a role. She could also be scared that she made her mind up and she is goin with the other person. Might be she is afraid of losing u out of her life. The truth is when it comes to women there mystery is what entices us why is that relavent because you may never know what happened just ride it out its about the only thing u can do. Push to hard and they fly away.
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