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anonymous
writes:I have this ex-boyfriend who is bothering me at the moment. We parted company 4 years ago after dating for a couple of months. I thought we got on great but he just disappeared unexpectedly without indicating that he wanted to split up and after ignoring a couple of my phone messages I just gave up and moved on. Anyway, one year to the day that he 'ran away' he rang me out of the blue and since I didn't answer the call, sent me a text message asking how I was doing. I replied that I had met someone else and that we were getting married, was settled in a new job and I thought I would never hear anymore from him. I don't have the same phone number these days but somehow he tracked down my new email address and sent me a message asking how I was doing. I haven't replied and I don't want to have anything to do with this guy as I am now very happy in my personal life. However, I am just curious as to why someone would bother trying to make contact after they disappeared in the first place and after such a long time too. It just seems very strange to me!
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 September 2007): you are happy and sorted in your life now, don't let this blast from the past mess things up ! You could ask him via email why he ran and what he wants now and if has regrets and apologies he can email them to you. try at all costs to avoid a face to face as he will try and lure you back in and not nice for your current partner to deal with you meeting an ex. i have been in a similar situation where the ex returns and messes things up so do be careful.a leopard rarely changes its spots!
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reader, FluffyFluff  +, writes (29 September 2007):
I had the same problem a while ago. Exact same story, he also just disappeared. The a while ago he called to just talk, saying hes sorry for the way he acted and maybe one day if its meant to be, we will get back together! Point is, your ex has been through a few more women, and in that time has realised exactly what he lost when he left you, so now hes either hoping to get you back, or he just wants to genuinely apologise!
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reader, Tommy7  +, writes (29 September 2007):
Lose your curiosity and totally ignore him.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 September 2007): Only he knows the answer to this. Perhaps he feels badly for leaving you the way he did with no explanation and no contact, and wants to see how you are doing now, and to possibly let you know he regrets being a jerk to you back then....from my experience, it is usually about not wanting to be a jerk, and to let you know that he really did like you back then, he just did not want a relationship not neccessarily with you, but with anyone at that time, and he probably ran out of fear.....and little else.
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