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writes:I thank in advance anyone who helps here. My question involves a co-worker. This is not a clear cut case of a nasty co-worker. I am a consultant and work with this woman once a week as I work in other offices as well. She seems a very real person and states exactly what she thinks at all times... does not seem to monitor what she says prior to saying it. Her boss seems a nice guy but he does not pull the reins in on her. She is consantly leaving the office on errands... she does what she wants. She seems to have a high status in the office... not sure how hard she works. She has called me a few choice names and does the same with others as well. I can tell that, at base she seems to have a good heart but her candor and lack of self monitoring is still hurtful as I have not yet got to undersand her ways. I know I am not going to change her style and my personality may not be a great fit for this site but my question would be what causes some people to be unintentionally so hurtful and any ways to handle this person would be appreciated. She is pretty young as well... in her twenties. I am quite a bit older and find her approach unprofessional although again, I do not find her hypocitical... she lets you know just what she is thinking.
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reader, PeterPan  +, writes (12 December 2008):
 It's been my experience that people like that have "something to prove" ...mostly to themselves. They have this kind odd *something* about them at all times. It's like they keep everyone and everything at a distance and the abrasive attitude just comes with it. What can you do about it? Stay out of her way... karma is an interesting thing... what goes around comes around... rest in the fact that one day she's going to run into another person with a larger chip on their shoulder that will cut her down a peg or two. In the meantime, don't waste your energy trying to figure out how to deal with this person -- your time and energy is best spent concentrating on yourself and your standing... hope that helps some...
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