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writes:my name is ariana. however, this question doesnt pertain to me persay. my brother is 16 and has been in a new relationship every year almost. and he just had another breakup. however, its always the girls who seem to break up with him. mostly its because they arent good for him and they cheat on him, but not this recent one. they literally just broke up yesterday and he is really upset. i assumed it was because she said something rude and hurtful to him, but i found out it was because he moved wayy too fast with her (no i dont mean sex or anything like that, my brother is a gentleman). and i agree. after some research into their relationship(dont worry nothing too personal) i realized that they started saying i love you after going out for not even a month. and frankly, i think both of them were going too fast. but im really worried about my brother.he just cant seem to let her go and in a convo with her he even said i want to spend my life with you and maerry you. at 16! and she is a year younger by the way. and apparently thats what freaked her out, hey i dont blame her, thats a major turn off for me. but he isnt some ultra-dependant freak and thats why i and worried as to why he says and does this in a lot of relationships. he gets wayy to caught up, quickly assums its true love, and imagines spending their life together-a biggg no no. so can you give me advice, or rather advice to my brother so i can re-lay the message to him so he can see reality?i cant bear to see him get hurt again. thanks !
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reader, pepper27  +, writes (28 July 2008):
 Hi Sweetheart
Your a sweet sister, Ive got 2 boys hunny and at that age its boldly go were no man has been before if I can also remember that far back to my teens :)
He will learn in time by his own mistakes in life but it wont do any harm to have a little chat with him to save him some hurt, He needs to as you say go a little slower, Yes its really nice to be treated well and respected thats good. But when you have just started going out with someone and they do come across to strong to quickly you are right its run a mile as its way to soon and they are far to young so its hard to take in for anyone. Tell your brother to always be respectfull as it seems there is no problem there he sounds lovely but not to pressure the girl to much just to be calm and cool enjoy the company and take one day at a time making each one special and not to rush in, Getting to know someone first and becoming friends is the best thing to do, Having fun not concentrating on the futour to much at that age and just going with the flow. You can still be a nice guy and keep a girl interested with being you rather than rushing in and wanting marriage before you even know the personality of someone..Im sure hunny he will be fine he has you, And he cant go far wrong with you looking out for him love it will all work out in the end he just needs to chill out and have some fun and think friendship lets get to know this person for awhile and see how things go. Hope this helps hunny TAKE CARE OF BOTH OF YOU WITH LOVE N HUGS MANDY XXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXX
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