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writes:I am currently in university just started two weeks ago.I met this lovely girl waiting for one of the lectures. She seemed a bit lost and didn't know anyone. I was with one of my flatmates so we introduced ourselves.Anyhow, she (like me) doesn't go out a lot and isn't spending a lot of time with flatmates. We get along quite well and spend a reasonable amount of time together. Maybe not that much, but that is due to not having the same timetable and both having other things to do. We always sit together in lectures and so forth. It did occur to me that I MIGHT like her as more than a friend, but only vaguely.But then when I mentioned her name when talking to the previously mentioned flatmate, and my flatmate said "You like (insert name here), don't you?". I dismissed it, but since then I started thinking "yes, I suppose I do like her." It isn't really getting to the point of infatuation or anything, but I do feel somewhat attracted to her.What can I say or do that isn't too direct that would suggest to her how I feel? Also, what kind of things can I do or say that might make her like me? Should I just treat her really well, offer support, be a gentleman and so forth, or is their more that I can do?
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 October 2008): Friend two weeks is very early to woo a girl.Slow and steady wins the race any time.Can you be friends with her first?.Create a good impression(for eg..Save her fourth cousin's kitten from a tree and so on:)) and slowly get into her heart.A sense of humour wins any kind of girl.Look into her eyes everytime you talk.You shouldn't gawk at the girl and scare her.lol.Just look into her eyes honestly everytime you talk to her.Dress well.Look your best.People who say outer appearances don't matter in love are lying to a particular extent.Confidence makes a person attractive.Be sure of yourself.Start going out as friends first.Tease her.We like to be teased by guys we like.Not the ones who we don't like.Grrrr.If she seems pleased by your subtle flirting slowly proceed ahead.Ask her out on a special date.Flowers and Chocolates help.:).See how long you can talk on the phone or talk to her in person.If you don't find the conversations boring you definitely have a strong chance of a great relationship here.Go for it Buddy!.Make her feel as if she's the most special person in the world even when she's your friend.you can say things like "Hey I just got a call from heaven.They r missing their best looking angel and here you are!".Lil flattery doesn't hurt at all.Lemme know how it goes.
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reader, dobro +, writes (5 October 2008):
dobro is verified as being by the original poster of the question I hear what you are saying. I have had my fair share of crushes and infatuations. It doesn't quite feel the same. Definitely feeling somewhat of an attraction. Far too early to tell really I'll only have known her two weeks as of tomorrow.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 October 2008): When we are young sometimes crushes and infatuations do occur.if you really like her you wouldn't be wondering about it.When it comes to affairs of the heart things are pretty clear.Sometimes we do not see it or do not wish to see it.Lets say you are mildly attracted to this girl now and go all out to woo her.What if you meet the love of your life later?That would be causing too many broken hearts all around.So friend before you do anything to woo her give yourself time as to how you really feel abt her.Once you are sure you are a lil serious about her I am here to help you with how to woo her:).
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