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female
age
30-35,
anonymous
writes:My boyfriend and I have been together six months. We are both virgins, though before each other we've each had some sexual experiences. The past few months things have heated up, going from just making out to clothes off (though underwear stays on), dry humping, and fingering on a regular basis. He's offered me oral many times, which I appreciate, but I'm still uncomfortable with it. The problem is I am now beginning to feel very selfish. He always leads what we do, because it always ends up with him fingering me and my climax and him left with blue balls. He says he doesn't know if he can do it as regularly since it hurts him, and last time we were getting heavy asked if I wanted to try anything new but I didn't know what to do. I feel bad, and want to satisfy him as well, though I'm not sure if I'm ready for sex quite yet. It's difficult to know where to go, though, when previously he has said he wouldn't want me to go down on him any more than on a few special occasions (like his birthday), and thinks hand jobs are weird. He has mentioned he likes to be touched on his crotch, but then he doesn't want the other acts? Guys, does he really mean this or is he just being a gentleman trying to not make me feel like it is something I have to do?I'm so confused! What can I do to take some control in our progression and help him feel pleasure without going all the way? And how can we start leading up to sex with these conditions?
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reader, china doll 1936 +, writes (14 February 2012):
 explain to him that you are a virgin and want to save that for the person you marry
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