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writes:I go to an all girls school so i dont have contact with many boys. However i do know a few from before high school and i have been intimate with one of them. the thing is he treats me awful but i alway go back to him. i cant help it im scared of loosing my male contacts what can i do to stop myself? Reply to this Question
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reader, katzkitten +, writes (30 July 2006):
katzkitten is verified as being by the original poster of the question Its hard to loose contact with him because hes my best friends brother. i did stop seeing him for a year last year for complicated reasons, bt nw things are back to normal and i see him alot and talk to him.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 July 2006): Wanting to have male friends/a boyfriend is perfectly normal - especially at your age! It's human nature to want physical contact and to be intimate with someone. Do you have any hobbies outside of school that might lead you to meet more guys? If you don't, maybe you should look into something going on in your area - maybe a band is coming that you'd like to see? There would be plenty of guys there to meet and you'd know that you two already share a common interest. Same goes for any other hobby you might have - what about going to a museum or something along those lines? What about your friends? Do they have male friends they could introduce you to? Or maybe they have brothers you could get to know and meet guys through them? There are plenty of options - and I'm not saying you would, but I would definitly suggest skipping the bar scene. heh :) But whatever you do, I suggest stopping all contact with the one jerk. Use that time to try and find good guys.
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reader, sbw1989 +, writes (28 July 2006):
 What you do is this: get away from the guy. It is not the be all and end all to have male contacts- wouldn't you rather have male contacts that treat you right? Are you worried your mates will laugh at you for not knowing any guys? They are more likely to laugh at you for being like this, even then, that is if they aren't your real friends!What you need is a little bit of self respect and the independance to not care what others think. When you're older and in college, you will meet lots of guys and then realise having male contacts isn't that big a deal.I went to an all girls school myself- a lot of guys either think you are a lesbian, or that you're gagging for male attention. Both are very shallow assumptions, but don't be known for the latter. If you let this guy walk over you, others will think they can too.When you have respect for yourself, you will be able to stop yourself, but until then- it's up to you.Get in contact if you need any more advice.xxx
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