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writes: My boyfriend and I have been together for almost 10 months..I love him a lot and he helps me through everything. He treats me well and lets me do everything I want to do. Just he annoys me and since I have really bad aniexty it drives me nuts like if he sings, or is all clingy, or is impatient..just any lil thing like that. I tell myself I shouldn't get worked up about little things I dunno why I do, but I want this feeling to go away. The aniexty feeling of everything little thing stressing me out that is..what can i do? Reply to this Question Share |
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (21 August 2009):
Be patient with him and with yourself. When you start to stress about his actions you set yourself up for an anxiety attack.
I would actually recommend either therapy or yoga - or even better both. Learn to tune things out from time to time.
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reader, Starlights +, writes (21 August 2009):
Try to be patient with your partner.
You say you love him, and you need to realise us humans arent perfect creatures, we all annoy each other sometimes.
It could be your ultra sensitive and techincally the younger one is the more sensitive they are, whereas older people learn through life experience not to take the little things too seriously.
Try and laugh the next time he sings, or why dont you join in? change your habits and then you can change your life.
Anxiety is perfectly normal but when it interfere's with your relationships it is a disorder and you need help to overcome it.
try the link below which will give you useful tips to overcoming this phobia.
http://www.helpguide.org/mental/anxiety_types_symptoms_treatment.htm
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reader, person12345 +, writes (21 August 2009):
I find that generally when you are truly in love with the person the little things won't get to you. There's nothing you can do about the way you feel. I too am an "anxious" person and tend to get very working up about EVERYTHING, but now that I'm with the right person nothing really gets to me much, even big things sometimes. It's possible to simply be attracted to someone and be comfortable with them without being truly in love.
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reader, Flip0709 +, writes (21 August 2009):
okayy. first off, are you in love with him or do you just love him? you see what im trying to get at here? im not trying to offend you in anyway. but if you are truly in love with him, he will be worth it.... if nothing changes and you're still unhappy, i think we both know what you must do....
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