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writes: hi everybody i really need some advice. i seem to be bad at giving my bf oral sex and i feel really awful. he is the first guy i've been with sexually and we are still waiting until marriage for intercourse so I'd like to be able to pleasure him. we've been together almost two years and i've given him a lot of blowjobs I'd say but i just dont think im any good at it. it doesnt help that i absolutely hate doing it but i still want to because i dont know what else i can do. last time i sort of pinched him with my teeth and now im scared to death of ruining it next time too. he is so great and can makes me orgasm everytime, this is the only issue that id say we have. we have a great relationship and i love him, what can i do to make oral sex better for him?
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reader, TasteofIndia  +, writes (8 April 2007):
 Hey sweetness,
Firstly, You should NEVER, EVER do something that you hate. Never let your boyfriend pressure you into do anything you don't want to do. If he's not pressuring you, don't feel obligated to do this for him. Sexual stuff should be fun for both parties and you should NOT be doing this if you hate it. Talk to your boyfriend about this. If he truly loves you, he won't make you feel like you have to do this for him!
But, you asked a question and I'll provide that answer too.
Oral sex... one of the few times where much messier is usually much better. The trick is to genuinely love his "love log"... I mean it, I do.
Personally, I think the one thing that will absolutely guarantee great, fabulous, mind-blowing head is being COMFORTABLE, completely comfortable with his penis. For the most part, it won't break so explore it all over with your young. Don't just lightly touch his penis with your tongue, REALLY use your mouth with enthusiasm. Use your tounge and make sure your mouth is nice and wet.
I find also that using your hand at the same time is a GREAT way to make your blow jobs top-notch. Use it at the same time to lightly play with his "boys" or, if we must get technical, his testicles. Don't grab them too harshly or twist them up... those you should be gentle with.
I like to switch it up between my mouth and hand... when I am switching to using my hand, I lick it or sort of spit on it to make it nice and lubricated and that feels great for your boyfriend.
Switch up your pace... sometimes go fast, then stop and just stroke him lightly, then start up a little faster, build, build, slow, faster, faster and when he's ready to let go, let him.
Most importantly, talk to each other. You've been together for two years, make these times fun for BOTH of you. Giggle, tickle, talk, enjoy each other. Explore every inch. It's great that both of you are waiting for marriage, congratulations!
Have fun, sweetness.
xxIndia
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