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writes:been through a turbulent life and had bumps along the way, got into scraps with people, was raped when I was eighteen and have a gamble problem which is on going which I can’t keep control of and have quit work due to stress, Ive tried therapies, physchiatrists you name it, nothing seems to work. what can I do to make my life happier and easier? my family left me with no money for a week when they went on holiday.I have autism and people consider me a liar and won’t help me when I’m in need, and my brothers couldn’t care less about me. hope you guys can helpthanks
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 February 2018): Stability seems like a boring term, but that’s exactly what you need. In order for stability to happen, you need to keep your spending in check. The one thing that will make you happy is trying to save and having enough money each month to pay debts off. Make a spreadsheet of all your income versus all your fixed bills you have to pay each month plus your fluid expenses. Get someone with knowledge of computer spreadsheets to help you do that. Then you can see where your money’s going and it will be a funner addiction than gambling, trying to create and keep a window of savings building up each month. You’ll feel great when you get into the habit of trying to keep a budget going, and when you have financial stability, you’ll start to feel great about yourself. You’ll start to feel a sense of worth, and you’ll build a feeling that you’ll always have hope. Debt is the modern form of slavery, and as Ben Stein said, it’s a fact that people who have money and control of their money are always happier people. Let your past go, and don’t wait on lotteries and gamling to free you miraculously. Start now, don’t wait.
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reader, femmenoir  +, writes (22 February 2018):
 I would definitely advise you to visit your local GP (as a good starting point) and discuss all of this with he/she.
The sooner, the better and from what you have shared with us, you've been through a lot and are still going through a lot, however, you must also take some control of your own life and do something to rectify the things that can be rectified.
You're not able to hold down a job and you're in your 30s, so this is why your family won't help you.
There are training programmes for people with autism and they can help you to be able to remain in the workforce.
I don't know where you live, but you should ring your local council and get some advice about that, or you can discuss this with your GP.
You are not alone, because there are many people who live with autism, all over the world and many can/do live fulfilling and positive lives.
You'd benefit from a good, support network, however, i'm wondering, why do you not have any familial support?
Have you broken your family's trust, or have you hurt various members of your family, even if it wasn't intentional?
For the most part, family don't abandon us, unless there has been some sort of negative conflict and/or break of their trust.
Make an appt to see your GP and if you have no money at present, tell the receptionist this, but let her know that you're desperate, alone and require urgent help as you're struggling emotionally.
You mentioned you were raped at 18 and that you have an ongoing gambling problem.
These are 2 very serious issues and if you've never reached out, to receive help for both situations, this is the time for some serious, one on one counselling with a professional counsellor.
In many parts of the world, free counselling, for up to 6 (minimum) and ten (maximum) visits is available to you and your GP can arrange it all for you.
All the best and let me know how you go.
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