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reader, anonymous, writes (3 March 2006): I've had the same problem and ive found that the best way is to wait till he comes home with dinner ready on the table and candels lit and after dinner rub his back with baby oil and then curl up and watch a film together (ghost perfect for a night in even he'll be crying in your arms at the end) and just make all the convesation about what hes been doing all day (guys really like to be treated softly when theyve had a hard day,so add alot of ahhh's in to the convesation)just make him feal like the most important person in the world, and incidently the next morning he will treat you like his goddess,hope this has helped
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 February 2006): Great question!
It'd help to know your age and living situation. But here are some small suggestions from what my boyfriend does for me that lets me know he loves me.
-- Make him coffee in the morning and take a cup to him. (Be casual. Don't present it like a gift. Make it like it's second nature. He'll notice.)
-- Spoil him once in a while by making dinner and cleaning up after. Make sure he sits still.
-- Pay attention to his stories. If he tells you about a book he used to read when he was a kid that he loved, buy him a collector's edition of it. If he loves music, and you have the money, get him an iPod shuffle. If he says something off the cuff about how he used to play hockey, get him info about local teams and buy him a stick and some gloves.
-- Do research on something he mentioned. Find out as much as you can about something he's interested in, so you can talk about it with him. It might also give you gift ideas when it comes to his birthday.
-- Ask him questions when he talks to you. This sounds stupid. But so many people after they get into a relationship get quiet. They have trouble paying attention to each other. They don't get interested in what the other person is saying. And it can be deadly for a relationship. I find that any man I know loves it when I get into what they're talking about and ask questions. It comes naturally for me to do this, but I've had men stop me and compliment me on it. It's extremely important.
-- My boyfriend likes it when I make the bed for him. We don't have a tendency to do this every day. So, I've been trying to do it a lot lately. I like it. It makes the room feel good when you walk in. He's mentioned it, and he likes it too.
-- Touch. Touch is extremely important. And it doesn't have to mean sex. A lot of couples get caught in the bad habit of cringing when their mate touches them, because they think it's necessarily going to lead to pressure for sex. If you have to, talk about it. Let him touch you without having sex. And touch him as often as you can. When you walk past him, a stroke of a finger across the shoulder. When you sneak behind him to grab your toothbrush in the bathroom, a pat on the bum. When he's lying in bed, a tackle and a squish. Pressing skin on skin is healing and good for you both. And it is a very tactile reminder that you care for each other.
Lastly, be sincere. Don't do anything if you're not feeling it. It will come across. If you find yourself not in the mood often, try lightening up a bit. Good luck.
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