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writes:hi everyone hope people have some useful answers here I am so stressed with my boyfriend. He is 28 the problem is he can just be so annoying. Everytime I want to do something it can be anything like going to bath our 7 month old son, or can be going into the kitchen to do tea, he has to do something before me. iIt's like he has to do something for me to do something. I am so stressed with it all I just cant cope anymore he is like a daft kid he goes out with his mates they act stupid and he says he is afraid of losing his friends because he is in a relationship with me I feel like I have 2 kids to look after also I get no help whatsoever with our baby luckily he is a really good baby.I get fed up of constantly doing everything I never get chance to relax even go out every now and again he has never changed a nappy bathed our son gave his some food or fed him a bottle or got him any wind up. Sorry for the rant I am just so stressed. Any ideas what I can say to him to make him realise what a idiot he is being? I really cant take much more of this thank you Reply to this Question
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reader, Honeypie  +, writes (20 July 2015):
 I agree with Auntie Bim Bim
Enough is enough, he is 28 YEARS old, he needs to GROW up or get lost.
Sit him down TALK to him, but honestly don't expect a "miracle". I would prepare myself to be a single mom, you almost are one now.
He might be "trying" to help you, but it seems to stress you more than anything. So you NEED to spell it out for him.
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reader, Aunty BimBim  +, writes (20 July 2015):
 Sit him down, at the kitchen table is good for this as it can be seen as neutral territory, make sure he is engaged and part of the conversation, by this I mean he has to be looking at you.
Tell him he has choices and its time he made a decision about how he wants to live his life. Outline his choices:
1. Be a single man and act stupid with his mates, continuing to not interact with his child, this involves him moving out and paying child support.
2. Be a single man and act stupid with his mates, but learn how to be more involved with his child, this will involve him moving out, and regular supervised access visits while he learns parenting skills and paying child support.
3. Be part of a family, sharing the raising of the child you two made, this involves him becoming more engaged with his child, sharing the chores associated with having a baby and ALSO sharing household chore, the amount of housework he does will depend on if he is in full time employment or not.
He has choices, so do you, I would not be happy in your situation, you can't change the way your boyfriend is, but you can change what you will, and wont, accept. Its your choice.
Currently his behaviour is unacceptable. So don't accept it.
Good luck with it all.
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