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writes: Ok, I'm going to be vague about this, as I don't want to much revealed but here goes.I'm a straight girl, and I'm in love with one of my teachers... Who is also a girl.She's a young teacher, I think about 25. She's been at our school for a few years now but I only started having her last year. I had her for a subject I didn't too much enjoy, but she made it really interesting. Now this year I have her for Film and Drama, and she's absolutely grown on me a whole lot. She's pretty geeky (in a very good way), but very outgoing. She's the kind of teacher that no matter who you are, you enjoy being in her class. So yeah this year I've just started to get more and more attracted to her, she's absolutely beautiful, personality and looks wise. She makes me laugh, has the cutest laugh, and all I need is her in the classroom and I enjoy every minute of the lesson. Whenever she's a substitute in one of my classes she sits beside me, and I just can't get work done because all I can do is talk to and look at her. Her character is so infectious. One of the most heartbreaking things though, is that she's leaving at the end of the year. I don't even know how to begin to say goodbye to the teacher who has made me actually want to come to school at a time when I've been very upset (other problems). I want to get her a gift, but nothing fits the situation well enough. I don't even think I can come on her last day for fear of breaking down crying when she leaves. I really need advice, I find myself thinking about her all the time, and whenever I listen to a song that she's played or said she likes, I think of her, and play them just to think of her. What do I do? And why am I attracted to a girl? Is it because we have so many common interests? Help!
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 November 2010): Adding to my last post, it will also be hard for me to leave too, as I have so much in common with her I also find that I think about her way too much.
But it's not impossible to keep in contact with her when she leaves as you are allowed to contact each other if you are a former student of hers.
I have already found my teacher on fb and planning to add her as soon as I have left the school.
chin up ... hope this is of some help.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 November 2010): Don't worry you don't fancy her you are confused with admiration. I'm in the same kind of position I looked up all this stuff about fancying a teacher and I realized what it was.
I have the exact same feelings .Whenever she is close I get nervous not wanting to do anything stupid to make her think of me in any other way than good. Wanting to impress her and wondering if it's enough.
I used to hate science but being in her class makes it soo interesting.
If she sits next to you again in class and you can't, concentrate why not ask her for help?
I'm leaving to another school soon as well and what I'm planning to do is find her a thank you present for the end of the year which will remind her of me for many years to come. I suggest you do that so she can remember what a grateful student you were.
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reader, ice_4fire  +, writes (6 November 2010):
Hi my friend!
Sexuality (being straight, gay, lesbian etc) is a complex and sensitive subject so far.
If I or you want to be honest and pure about us so that our entire life can pass with a piece in mind then, please know that...
What so ever feelings you have are correct according to your body and mind
Nothing right, wrong, good or bad.
If the feelings are coming from inside then why should one become worried?
If you gather all people in this universe and ask them if they want to have relation with same sex or if they ever tried? Then more than 65% will say yes
Sexuality is not about gender, like a boy and girl thing. What matters is to with we are feeling good, that's it.
So, I suggest that if you have attraction of both the genders, no worries, accept it. From the view point of love, you are in fact loving more human beings on planet.
If you ask this to 10 people, they have 10 different opinions which makes 100 opinions in total. But close your eyes, ask questions and you will get answers from inside.
I wish you all the best and let me know if you need any further help
Thanks!
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reader, BrownWolf  +, writes (2 November 2010):
Ok, then I chalk it up to plain old feelings. Which is good in a way. Now you know how guys feel about you girls. Powerful stuff you women. :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 November 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionTo BrownWolf, no not at all, I've had boyfriends, and I have some guy friends.
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reader, Natalie:)  +, writes (1 November 2010):
 I think as a teen this is totally natural and often you can confuse admiration for a crush. I know I I'd when I was about 17 so don't worry. I would just advise you now though don't make a move because I have a friend who was in love with our history teacher in high school and told him on the last day, he thought she was nuts ovc and it's still by far, to her, one of the stupidest things she ever did!!
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (1 November 2010):
 Yes it probably is to do with common interests you probably look up to her and like the person that she is and that is how your feelings have developed, i no this is going to sound harsh but it is probably going to be healthier for you in the long run her leaving as it will give you a chance to get over your feelings and get on with your life, when you look back on this you will probably discover that it was just a crush and it was more about who she was than sexual feelings, but for now just try and put your thoughts in to school work and hanging out with your friends, am sure you might think of something to buy her as a goodbye present.
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reader, BrownWolf +, writes (1 November 2010):
What are your relationship like with boys? Do you have a hard time talking to boys, or feel shy around them?
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