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writes:im a straight woman. had boyfriends before and ive always liked guys. until one day, i realized that im inlove with my lesbian boss. but im just "gay" for her. okay call me a lesbian too because i really really like my boss. the thing is, my lesbian boss is not "out" in the open. i mean her being lesbian is not an open thing. i only found out she was a lesbian through an officemate and she indeed confirmed it coz she met the girlfriend and they've been living together for the past 4 years. 1. i dont know if my boss is attracted to me too since she's always been so nice to me and i dont know if im just reading to much into it. 2. she doesnt know i know she's gay. and she knows i like boys and not gay so she definitely doesnt have any idea that i like her.i thought that our major conflict is the fact that she doesnt know i like her and she doesnt know im gay too. ofcourse another conflict is her live in girlfriend of 5 years and the fact that she's very principled and would never cheat or hurt her gf for another woman. i also dont want to be her mistress.what do i do with these feelings? the only way ill profess is if i know she's interested back. i dont think i can take rejection especially since im so new at this. the idea of getting rejected by a gay woman and i dont know what to do
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reader, IntoxicatingLastBreath  +, writes (18 January 2008):
 Just because you like another woman doesn't nessacerrily mean to say your gay..so don't worry, you could just be bisexual or even bi curious..as if you've never done anything with a woman or been going out with one you may develope feelings for someone of the same sex and wonder what it'd be like.
Are you close to your boss? Like friends or anything?
Maybe invite her out to a bar or something? If she doesn't know you have feelings for her then she'll just think you mean as friends..which is a good things..it gets you two closer as friends and you'll feel more confident about being around her and trusting her and stuff..just lets make it friends at first, especially because she's also seeing someone at the moment.
Did you like her before you knew she was a lesbian? Because maybe your just developing feelings for her as you found out she was a lesbian and were wondering what'd it'd be like with a woman? Especially her?
Once you get to know her as a friend..going out with her and having fun etc..either tell her how you feel..subtally..you don't have to tell her you know she's a lesbian, just see how she reacts..tell her you can't help your feelings and stuff, and on the other hand..if you get to know her more as a friend you may realise that your feelings were mistaken and you were looking too far into it and you do only like her as a friend, and your feelings will become a lot clearer :]
I hope i helped any, and feel free to contact with me
Good luck
~Krissy [x]
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